BFN 😢 3rd FET - is there any hope?

[Catlady12345]

Morning,

I had a BFN this morning after our 3rd FET.

Our first fresh attempted worked but we sadly had a missed miscarriage at 7 weeks.

Our 2nd fresh attempt was an early bfn as I started bleeding after 8 days

We then had ERA and it showed I needed an extra 12 hours progesterone so we had our FET 17.02 and bfn today.

I’m feeling really lost and hopeless. We have 1 grade 3 left in the freezer.

I just wondered how many had further success after a similar process? I feel a lot of people have success by now 😞 I’m 34 (35 in October)

Also, I’ve never had a medicated FET before so I just wondered now I’ve come off everything when I’ll likely have a bleed?

Thanks xxx

[Jess1981]

I can't offer practical advise but wanted to say so sorry for the BFN how bloody awful. When is OTD? Maybe you implanted later- sometimes it can be as late as 12 days. After that it takes 3 days for the HCG to build up enough to show positive. Did you use first urine and hold on all night as dilated urine can show a false negative. Did you drink before testing as that can also give dilated urine and false negative. Were they very sensitive tests? Sensitivity can vary hugely between tests. I can say at 35 that you have plenty of time on your side! I'm 39 and expecting I had Francesca at 37. . Age is irrelevant as we are all individual. My ex fertility doctor implied media scare mongering public with fertility dropping for women at 35- he spoke about this tribe who don't use birth control and are either pregnant or breastfeeding showed me a graph the fertility drops much later mid 40s. It was quite interesting. My mums ex colleague ( my mum has just retired) had her first child at 39 and second at 42! Without even worrying about falling! My late gran also had my mum at 40 in 1959 very unheard of then! Age is just a number don't let that add pressure to what is already a stressful enough process. I hope you have late implantation ☝🏻Xx

[Catlady12345 in reply to Jess1981]

Hey, OTD is today, it was stark white and I hadn’t been the toilet since the night before, thanks for the reassurance about age xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Catlady12345]

So sorry that is totally rubbish ☹️ You did all you could and wasn't your fault the cycle didn't work . Being on here has shown me how IVF can take a few goes to be successful. Hope next time is successful round for you ☝🏻Xx

[Catlady12345 in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you xx

[HemBella]

Oh I'm so sorry, I was hoping for good news for you.

If it helps I stopped my meds on Tuesday, 13dp5dt when I got my BFN and I started my withdrawal bleed last night. Sending you lots of love xx

[Catlady12345 in reply to HemBella]

Thank you, that’s good to know. Hope you’re ok too, such a hard process isn’t it. Got to stay hopeful xx

[Ranchu90]

There is always a hope and you shouldn't give up! I am 30 and started fertility treatments when I was 25, but I never thought for a second that I will give up, there is no way! We will find a solution out of this 💩. Some people are lucky but probably we don't have that much luck into our side that is not a problem we will find the luck. In Bible is saying "whoever seeks, finds; for whoever asks, receives and who knocks, it will be open". Think about these beautiful worlds take a deep breath gather your powers and move on. We cannot be defeated by infertility. I am very sorry to hear that you have a negative test 🥺🤗❤️

[Catlady12345 in reply to Ranchu90]

Thank you, I love your strength and positivity xx

[Clover5]

I'm really sorry about your BFN hun. It's so heartbreaking especially when they think they've pinpointed what may be the issue like with your progesterone, you think surely it's going to work this time. I know it's horrible when your getting older and panicking that it's never going to happen (I cry every morning of my birthday), especially when everyone around you already has babies or fall pregnant at the drop of a hat, but your time will come 🙏💕. I've been trying for 15 years now and so many people keep saying to me, why don't you adopt 🙄 and I know it's partly because I've almost died twice from trying to get pregnant, but I'm just not ready to give up.

Give yourself time to recover from this cycle and be kind to yourself doing things that make you happy. Sending a big hug ❤️XX

[Catlady12345]

Thank you, good luck to you too xxx

[Kookypie]

I'm sorry. I had a BFN this week too and feel rather heart broken. I hope we both feel better soon x

[Catlady12345 in reply to Kookypie]

Oh I’m sorry to hear that. We just have to be kind to ourselves and focus on going again. We’ve got this and we are both going to get our happy ending xx

[BBHH1]

Sorry to hear, you are young and those failed don’t mean you should give up. Doctors should be able to help you, even if you have to change providers, clinic and go to more specialized ones! Good luck

[Catlady12345 in reply to BBHH1]

Thank you. Xxx

[F_J_762301]

So sorry to hear this ☹ I was hoping for good news for you. Give yourself time to grieve, cry, let it all out.

On a practical level, I usually would start bleeding 2-3 days after stopping meds. Look after yourself xxx

[k2001]

I got pregnant with my 4th FET, and it was a medicated cycle. We did an embryo scratch before it which I really think made the difference to reset my uterine lining so it would talk properly to the embryo. I really didn’t get much of a bleed after stopping meds on prior transfers, just light spotting for 3-4 days within a week of stopping meds. Good luck!