BFN Day 10 of FET

[Red1985]

Hi, I’ve never posted on any forums before but have always read everyone’s stories. We had our FET transfer 27th Feb and due to do a home test on Tuesday but did one this morning and got a BFN...was it too early to test ? Feeling deflated...first two cycles had BFP followed by MC both times and I’m 35 but have a VERY low AMH

[Leesara]

I don’t know the answer but wanted to say hold hope I til OTD. Best of luck to you x

[Red1985 in reply to Leesara]

Thank you so much for your kind words x

[Chowlady14]

Hi, I’m almost exactly the same as you for dates. I had a 5AA frozen transfer on 28th Feb. Been testing every other day like a complete idiot since day 5 and every time it’s bfn and I feel down although I’ve come to terms with it in my head now it’s not worked and I’ve told my DH so trying to plan for the next one now. We are going away on Friday for the weekend which was our OTD so glad we know now and it’s not spoilt that. Was yours a 3 or a 5 day? I think from your username you are similar age to me too. Praying for luck for us both next time. This is definitely the hardest part of it all. Test yourself today and try to stay positive but remember it’s ok not to be ok xxxx

[Red1985 in reply to Chowlady14]

Hi, thank you so much for your reply, sometimes it can feel like you’re the only one going through it all, so sorry about your results mine was a 5 day transfer...a top grade embryo but guess you can never be too Sure. It is very difficult to come to terms with but great you have booked a trip away! Pray it works out some day for all of us! xx

[Chowlady14 in reply to Red1985]

It’s so hard Red, I already have 2 children 2 a previous relationship but the last birth almost 6 years ago caused so much damage to my womb that getting pregnant again was near on impossible. Since going through the IVF process after trying naturally with my husband for 2 years I’ve had 3 operations to fix the scarring and the cysts caused by my birth so it seemed like a perfect chance this time. Top grade hatching blayst, perfect uterine lining but somehow deep down I knew it wouldn’t work. Maybe I’m just being down on it. I also have an under active thyroid and thyroid antibodies but my RE won’t take this into consideration & I feel this is the real problem so in fact my body killed my blast with my antibodies. My husband desperately wants me to try again but I feel like such a failure. No sign of my period coming either thanks to the horrible drugs. Wish I could just stop them now but OTD isn’t till Friday for me day 14 so don’t want my clinic to think I’ve not taken it seriously. Will you try

again? You are not alone, you are so strong & brave going through this 🦁 xxxx

[Red1985 in reply to Chowlady14]

Wow, you’re so brave! You have been through soo much already! So sorry to hear you have been through so much but well done on getting through it all and trying again! You are by no way a failure and you mustn’t be so hard on yourself!!

I’ve had two IVF cycles, the first got a BFP and had a MC the week after, the second we had ICSI and had a top grade 5 day transfer and got a BFP but when we went for 7 week scan, we were told the heartbeat was too faint so waited for nature to take its course and miscarried. This frozen transfer was the only other embryo which made it so if we try again will be another full cycle!

Neither my husband or I have children, so will possibly try again but it’s too difficult to think about at the moment!

Also can’t stop all the drugs like you as our OTD is Tuesday!

xx

[Chowlady14 in reply to Red1985]

I have seen on this site some ladies getting their BFP on their OTD day so sending all my hope that Tuesday morning you wake up to 2 lines. Please let me know if you do. Sending you lots of love, I know nothing anybody can say will make it feel any better. I’m looking forward to a very large glass of wine Friday then hopefully times will heal and we will both be strong enough to try again, you’ve been through so much already self care is a must xxxx

[FingersCrossed27]

I tested too early last cycle & got a negative. But on the actual date of the test I got a BFP. It really is best to wait till Tuesday. Do you have any early symptoms?

[Red1985 in reply to FingersCrossed27]

Hey that’s great, so there is hope yet! I will definitely continue all medication and test again Tuesday, been have been getting a lot of cramping...much like AF is on its way but delayed due to medication! x