Our first round of ICSI failed today, after 3 years of trying naturally. I am so so sad, even knowing the odds were less than 50% I just thought it would work for us and we would finally have our Christmas baby.
I know so many of you must have had multiple failures and hope you don't think I'm overreacting or being insensitive.
I'd love to keep the hope by hearing your stories of success in subsequent rounds, and how you deal with the pain of failure.
So sorry Meako
You're not overreacting or being insensitive in the slightest
I've always found that taking some time out for a bit (its usually been quite short before going again but just to process the results) then working out next steps always helps. As does doing things we may wouldn't be able to do if pregnant eg. having a drink and spending time with hubby,going for a walk, staying off phones and social media
Big hugs to you. do you have any frozen?
Xx
Big hugs to you hun. I don’t personally think you are over reacting. We are all on a massive emotional journey. You are strong. ❤️
Oh Meako, I’m so sorry to hear this lovely. I was so upset when my first transfer failed. It’s horrible after all the effort that goes into a cycle. Not insensitive at all. Do you have any frozen embryos? Xx
I’m so sorry dear... All of us get into this journey with high hopes otherwise it’s impossible to go on. Have some hopes, the first round are more like the trial round, we learn a lot from them... i think the searchers suggests we need in average 2.5 round... give yourself some time, you will try again stronger xx
I’m so sorry - you are bound to be broken as you invest so much mentally and physically into ivf and hope and pray it’s the miracle cure. Be kind to yourself and grieve for what might have been, and take some time to indulge yourself in all the things you can’t do when doing ivf
After a while you will start to feel stronger - you will have a follow up appointment to discuss what went well and what might need to be changed and then when you feel motivated you can start again. I know it’s easy for me to say but your first cycle is a learning one for everyone and your body knows so much better what to do next time round, success in round one is not as common as any of us hope but round two is so often people’s lucky round
Huge hugs xx
You’re not overreacting or being insensitive at all. I found my first round loss utterly devastating! I too knew the odds were technically against us (29% or something like that) but i genuinely thought it would work. I thought my heart would never heal. But it does.
You and your Drs will learn so much from your first round, what went well and what didnt, and you can make those positive changes for any future cycles.
Sending huge hugs xx
So so sorry. You are not overreacting at all.. it’s heartbreaking when a cycle fails. I think with your first you go in with so much hope that this is your chance, and so when it fails it’s a reminder that this journey can be so so tough and unfair. I’ve been there, I’m still there.
Like that ladies say, take time to grieve and acknowledge your feelings. They’re valid and very real.
Sending you big hugs and here’s hoping 2021 is brighter xxxx
Thank you all, I'm not normally one for sharing feelings, bit it's helped to know so many people feel the same way. We have one frozen embryo (5BC) so I guess our next step will be FET. We have a meeting in mid January to discuss next steps.
The small positive of today is how much love we've felt from our friends & family who have been so sad for us, and from all of you who understand the journey. Thank you x
Your not overreacting at all.With my first cycle I started bleeding 5 days past a 5dt,didnt even get to test day i had no frozen either I was broken.
Saved again took over a year,but couldn't get excited for my second cycle felt for sure it wouldn't work but it did and he is now 1 year old, we also got two frozen from that cycle and about to try again for a sibling in January. I know it's hard but most people aren't successful on there first round only a lucky few. X
Really sorry that this is the outcome. I am not the voice if experience on how to cope as about to start my own first round but sending you lots of hugs xx
So sorry to hear this. Give yourself time to grieve and take it easy the next few weeks. I am glad you have a good support network around you. Sending lots of love and strength xxx
Feeling so so sad, BFN today after #firstivfcycle
5dp5dt BFN, feeling so sad xx
AF arrived after BFN. Feeling so sad.
Just so sad
3 BFN - I am feeling so sad 
