So we had our BFN yesterday which we knew was coming our way thanks to Mother Nature making her appearance Sunday (one thing my body can do is come on when I meant to, shame it's not reliable in the way of getting pregnant)
We are completely gutted to say the least.
Now have to think about if we can put ourselves through this again.
I feel half angry and the other half feels a pain like grief.
It all seems very cruel now as I have to spend the next few days suffering the worst period ever, so can't really switch off as I have a constant reminder that it didn't work. 😥
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Sorry for your bfn. They are cruel. You will get through this though. Take some time out and be kind to yourself. You don't have to make any decisions today, or in the next few days. I've been asked many times if I can put myself through ivf again and for me the answer is yes because I don't want to look back and wish I'd done more, given it everything. No regrets. Good luck on your journey xx
I know how you feel, I felt like after my failed cycle. All I can say is just take it one day at a time. I was very sad and emotional when my cycle failed, but slowly with time, I began feeling better and optimistic and wanting to start my next cycle. Give yourself time to grieve, then when you're ready you can go again. Its a lot to go through again but I wouldn't have it any other way to achieve my dream of becoming a mum x
So sorry to hear this but it is completely ok to have confused feelings. I sometimes just observe myself going 'ok so now I'm going through grief' 'wait, what's this new emotion?' Not judging myself, just noticing. Then, when I'm ready later, working through it Take baby steps - a nice food treat, wine (if you drink) maybe plan some exercise you couldn't do before? (Whichever. One floats your boat). Our body has worked so hard - and your mind - and though it didn't work out - it needs a break! Lots of hugs x
I have just seen this. I'm sorry to hear this. Massive hugs to you.
It does seem like a cruel joke.. Our bodies won't make a baby even with help but sure as hell make sure our period comes on time, every time.
I think the key thing is to take a few days or even weeks to grieve, adjust and move on to the next step in your journey.
You are stronger than you think, you just need to remain positive and good things will happen. I find that all the good news stories on here help me and give me hope that I will have a little baby of my own in my arms one day.
This just happened to me as well- AF on Sunday. You're right, it's grief not sorrow. I climbed under my covers for two days. I'm so sorry, hang in there sweetie. 💗💗💗💗💗
Thanks so much. It's just really rubbish right now with a very horrible AF from hell after all the drugs. We had to abandon out first cycle as I didn't have enough eggs that grew big enough. So this was 2nd go and furthest we have got.
I think a holiday is in order and some time to relax and think about the next steps. We had some frozen so will give that a try after a little rest.
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