Hello,
I am having my embryo transfer in a few hours and i just had a massive fight with my husband! It was mainly my own fault as i am panicking and i start screaming and yelling And then crying and be very very sad and panicking that my current state will mean that everything is lost! I think i might have ruined it!
Hi there, please try not to stress, nothing is lost yet. Sit down and take some deep breaths now. You have been through so much to get this far so its natural to get stressed and panicked. But today is all about you and your little embryo. Don't worry, you got this girl! xx
Thanks!!!! Stress and yelling and be upset is not helping me for sure! I am trying to calm down and breath! I am going to ignore this and focus on the transfer! Thanks again
From what I understand is that our modern day stress is dues to our fight or flight responses never being released. We constantly feel under threat and there is no resolution (we can't successfully run away from work or infertility like we can from a tiger) so we are just building stress and cortisol levels. So perhaps having a really big fight with screaming and crying might be really healthy because you are releasing a lot of tension you have been building these last few weeks.
It's definitely not detrimental and it will not mean that you have any less chance of success. If that was the case there would be much less babies in the world!
Take care and good luck! Xxx
Thank youuu! So much that helps! I am supposed to be relaxed and happy and i feel miserable! But i am going to relax and try to be as positive as i can be!
There was a big study which suggested that stress does not have an impact on successful outcomes in IVF treatment- so don't worry about worrying! It's normal to be stressed/nervous/anxious but I hope you can also enjoy the special moment of becoming PUPO!!! Xxx
Thank you!!!! I will do so!
Hi hun, I hope you have managed to make up and give each other a big hug. Sounds like your being really hard on yourself. It’s such a build up of stress and emotions it’s no wonder sometimes we have to unload. All the hormones don’t help either 🤭. I’m sure you haven’t ruined anything. Try and be as relaxed as possible and just enjoy the moment together. I wish you the best of luck for transfer today, I had mine today too I’ll
Thank you so so much! Best of luck to you and the tww! I am trying to calm down and be positive!
This sounds very stressful, poor you! I would not think it has a bad effect on implantation, it has quite a few days to attach. To be blunt, there is no point in worrying about this now - it happened and there is nothing you can change about that at this moment of time. It is in the past and out of your control. For the future though it might make sense to look into apps or so that help you to not react this way and be less stressed. There are a few that the ladies here suggested, I don't remember names. I hope you can calm down a bit and enjoy the excitement of having the little embie being put back in and I hope it snuggles in safely. Good luck!
Thank you i appreciate it!!!! I hope everything will be fine and i hope it wont have a negative effect! I am blaming myself for this so much! I am trying to be as calm as i can be! Thanks
It wont effect it lovely. We need to avoid chronic stress that messes our hormones. You got this keep your head high and all the best if luck xx
Many many thanks!!!!!
Fighting is unhealthy but Im guilty and did the same thing. I think it's the stress. However I'm currently 19+4. So you'll be ok
Congrats!!!!!! Thank you so so much! I am trying to not fight and now calmed down and had a decaf coffee had a haircut and ready to go for the embryo transfer! Thank you again!
It’s a stressful time, emotions are running high. It’s all perfectly understandable. Don’t be hard on yourself, these things happen. The main thing is to be in a positive state of mind when you get to the clinic. It’s all about you and the embryo as one of the posters said.
Best of luck with the transfer xx
Many many thanks! Fingers crossed for successful cycles for al of us!
No I also done this when I was in my wait! I am now 32 weeks pregnant. And I was literally like a screaming skull. I also panicked afterwards. 💕 keep your head up it’s all the worry and stress making you feel this way xxx
Thank you so much for replying! Its somewhat reassuring to know that others are acting in a similar way and its not just me that is losing it! Congrats for the pregnancy! Not long to go now! Wishing you the best and an easy delivery!
Hi hun, sorry to hear that have been through your shoes my own husband was asking for divorce right at the time I was going for my transfer I told myself have come far to allow it to affect me remember I had two operations for my tubes prior to my transfer due to my tubes damage and inflammatory fluid in my tubes.
Raise your head up and tell yourself you have come a long way and your not only doing these for him alone rather for yourself too.
I guess men express there stress differently he is having so much in his head too.
All the best and good luck.
Hugs and love 💓
Note 📝 after all that fight the embryo stuck 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕💕.
Ohhh honey! I am so so sorry for everything that you have been through! It must have been so difficult and i know how alone and terrified you feel at those moments! Thank you so so much for the advice! We sorted it out but i think i was mainly to blame as i went mental!and of course congrats for the successful cycle!!!! Wishing you the best!
No you have not ruined it at all. Try to stay positive okay. Try to avoid fight with husband sometimes. It's not your fault it's just the stress and anxiety associated with ivf. It happened to me as well. Relax your mind, speak to God for HIS blessing and try to be happy. God will see you through. ✌️ ✌️ ✌️ ✌️
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