IVF when to truly know to stop.

[Yazlinda]

This may not be the right forum to put the question out there. I understand everyone beliefs are different. Recently I have asked myself this questions after all the praying and faith I have never experienced a BFP. Maybe it is not Gods will for me which is why my prayers are unanswered, and maybe I just wont accept the answer I keep getting. I have been sat on crossroads since my last failed IVF in Dec. XXX

[Purplecat1984]

Sorry I don’t have any advice or answers but just wanting to send you good wishes and a virtual hug xxx

[Miracle43]

I’m sorry that you are feeling this way, I truly am. I often ask myself the same questions.

You do everything that you possibly can and still don’t get the result and you want and hope for.

It’s so consuming, the want and need to have a baby, be a mum, that it controls what you eat, think and do.

It’s physically, mentally and emotionally draining and takes over your life. Then there’s the financial side.

All I can say is that you are extremely l strong. Look at what you have overcome.

I’m sorry I can’t give you any advice, only you will know what is right for you.

Sending you virtual hugs and good wishes xx

[treezuk]

It’s a hard one to answer everyone is different for me personally I wanted to give my son a sibling we tried i got pregnant would lose it then I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure At 32 - which was hard it ment I couldn’t have any more children unless I used donor eggs , we talked about it we werent sure what to do we then looked into it went to the fertility show and chatted to lots of different clinics and Spoke to someone else who had donor egg twin girls , we were able to get some clarity for the first time and we made the decision to do the DE ivf with a clinic in Greece (as donation is much quicker there plus costs are less)

All the different things run through my head , what do you tell the child , what if the child looks nothing like me or my partner etc , it took us 4 transfers but we did it we now have twin boys now 14m , one looks like dad the other a lot like me (which is so strange but so lovely) but we got there in the end , for us those were the last two embryos if they hadn’t of worked I think we would probably have called it a day but I can’t say for sure we wouldn’t of kept going but at some point we would of had to admitted defeat if it wasn’t working because DE really was the last step for us.

Hope that helps a little.

[me08]

I know how you feel as I had the same question on my mind before my last cycle. My answer to myself then was 'when I get my child' and I was open to all avenues (even adoption but my husband wasn't).

My last cycle with DE has now made me a happy mother of an adorable boy I would do ANYTHING for (I love him more than life itself). What am I saying to you here? Perseverance and being open to several options if you know the vacuum will always be there, but if you know that you can walk away from trying and you will be just fine then please do (this process takes its toll on one's mind and wellbeing).

P.S. I understand when you mentioned 'faith' cos I did and still do, oh I also questioned my faith like you do now (everything you are feeling is normal). All the best in whatever option you choose xxxx

[Sarahmanc]

I totally get this. I got to a point when it was affecting everything I did. I was constantly arguing with my husband and I felt like all I thought about was IVF. So we decided one last try and we’re done. And I fell pregnant naturally just before we were about to start it. I’m not saying this works for everyone but the relief of knowing that there was an end point clearly had an effect on my body. Sending you love - it’s so bloody tough - and good luck for whatever you decide xx

[Lilly12255]

Hi Yazlinda, how many IVF transfers did you have already? And how old are you? The older you are, the more cycles you need because of higher rate of chromosome abnormality. Xx