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Oh well....

We had 2 transferred and I knew that was never really a good start. My husband is really upset but I just feel numb with it all. I seem to be immune to the disappointment as it’s all I’ve had on this journey. That was our only NHS cycle and right now I don’t think I want to try IVF again. I don’t feel it’s the way forward for us as I’m still no clearer on what’s causing me not to ovulate. I would rather spend money on researching this than IVF ..

I will now be enjoying my life for a little bit. We’re going to book up some holidays for next year. I’ve forgot what it’s like to not think about TTC. It’s overtaken our lives for 2.5 years and I’m kinda tired of it. I’m going to take back control. I’m 32 so while no spring chicken I have a little bit of time on my side, and sometimes you have to just accept that life has a different path for you and no amount of money or science is going to change that.

I will still be on here trying to help others if I can but not actively TTC now for a while. Thank you to everyone who helped me with questions. Xx

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Skippy1982

So sorry to hear this has not worked for you this time. Sending you big hugs. Defo get some holidays booked- something to look forward to. Treat yourself & hubby and you can come back to ivf when you feel ready. Sometimes a break from it all can do you the world of good. Have some you time, pamper yourself & look after each other. Xxx

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Kat9lives

So sorry to hear this lovely. You have the right positive mindset. Go and enjoy yourselves, you deserve it xxx

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amandac84

Oh lovely I’ve been following and hoping for you. I am so sorry to read this. However your positive attitude will carry you through. Your right to take time back for you and hubby and just enjoy being you and get yourselves back for a bit. Sending hugs it’s not easy xx

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Picalilli99

I’m so sorry it has not been successful for you Jaygee. Disappointment after disappointment can really take it’s toll. I’m so glad that you are taking some time out to focus on yourselves and life outside the pressure of TTC. I think it is so important and can often do the world of good. Take care lovely xxx

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kitscat

I’m so sorry about your negative result but I agree with what everyone is saying. You are still young and you can definitely afford to take some time off now to relax. Focus on you and as couple for a bit. Take care xx

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Westielover16

So sorry it hasn’t happened for you guys this time. You have an amazing attitude about it all! Take your time to process it all and definitely treat yourself. Take care and sending hugs xx

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Rebecca2384

I’m so so sorry to hear this news 😔 I wish I could say something to help heal your pain. It’s such a massive build up just to receive the worst news. I think it’s great you’re planning some holidays and taking your mind away from this TTC black hole for a bit xx 2.5 years is a long time to be consumed but this all (this is how long we’ve been in this for also) now it’s time for you! Xx

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Mazzath1

Have a look into Chinese herbs. They are very successful. Help you ovulate. Xx

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Kiers27

Hey Jaygee, I’m so sorry to read this news from you. You are absolutely doing the right thing and taking a break ... have some time out, enjoy your holidays together ... and you are right about having some time on your side and asking all the questions before you think to embark again on this difficult journey lovely.

Sending hugz for you xxx

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DiamondRuby128

Thinking of you.

I feel exactly like you do now. Whilst I’m heartbroken that it’s negative, I feel oddly numb too as I’ve had so many disappointments over the last 3 years that I’ve not got any tears left. Xxx

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