5days post donor transfer and convinced its not worked

[Travel27]

Hi All

I feel a bit stupid posting here as I know it won't change a thing, but don't feel I can keep boring on at the friends who do know about this as they will just tell me not to worry.

After 5 years of trying including 2 years of mild IVF, none of which I got any viable eggs from really - despite trying my one and only 'best ever' egg (grade 2) on a 3 day fresh transfer which didn't work I decided to move to donor eggs.

I know the clinic I went to in Crete has a 63% success rate (not the highest, but I have a house nearby so it was that that guided my choice). On Friday (7th Feb) I had 2 AA early day 4 blasts transferred (they were harvested on Monday so I think that's day 4 right?). The first couple of days I had some cramping etc, no spotting or anything, but for the last couple of days not really anything. I also no longer feel as tired or borderline nauseous as I did at the beginning - I am taking a whole cocktail of drugs including a lot of progesterone which normally makes me nauseous anyway.

The clinic had a loooong list of what I thought were ridiculous rules about things I couldn't do which included not bending to put on shoes, going upstairs (I live on the 3rd floor!) etc. I have been trying to take it easy, but honestly, the gremlins have got into my head and I've basically decided that this also hasn't worked and I'm dreading doing the blood test next Monday to find out - I will also have to wait until Wednesday for the results which is another week from today.

Anyway, I know no one can really help, but I just wanted to be able to vent a little bit as I am not feeling my normal relatively level self which is contributing to me spinning out on this.

Sigh. Anyway, would love to hear stories from others about symptoms or lack there of after a fresh transfer.

Thanks for reading

TQ

[ttcemmie]

Ahhhh yes the old advice of not putting on shoes?!?!?! What?! Lol, your clinic should have just wrapped you in bubble wrap and told you stay put for two weeks. Feel free to vent away on here. You can't bore us; we are all living and breathing this fertility struggles journey. Anyway, just wanted to say "not to worry"! Symptoms or lack of symptoms basically mean nothing is what I've worked out, and is completely variable from person to person, and can mean either pregnancy or period coming. So, basically, you'll just have to wait and/or Google anything you think may be a symptom and convince yourself either way. You don't have to expect yourself to feel your normal level self, though, as this is a unique/anxious/annoying time.

[Travel27 in reply to ttcemmie]

Thank you, and yes, I know I am being ridiculous. I am generally a lurker on fertility boards so have read them all. Having this as my first, what feels like 'real', transfer with an actual possibility of success I think is what is making it much much harder this time. This is the furthest we have ever got, and now my brain is going into overdrive and I'm trying to tell it to shut up so I can work and forget about my uterus for a couple of hours!

[Corchi]

Hi !! All I can tell you is that I had 6 miscarriages and they all had symptoms and the one pregnancy that (naturally) finally happened and gave me my son DIDNT have symptoms at all up until 8-9 weeks. I didn’t even know or believe I was pregnant even when period was ten days late! So symptoms really don’t mean anything in my opinion!! Good luck xxx

[Travel27 in reply to Corchi]

Thank you and congratulations! I am still hopeful (and then not, and then hopeful etc etc ad infinitum) that maybe it will work, but constant sub conscious symptom spotting is nuts. Just another week latest until I find out. I can do that.

[Corchi in reply to Travel27]

Yes you can 💪🏼

[Cinderella5]

Urrghhh its so hard to know what is going on, some people get pregnancy symptoms and a BFN, some have no symptoms and get BFP....all different scenarios and unfortunatley there is nothing you can do but sit tight and try to keep your mind busy!! Best of luck.xx

[Hidden]

Thankfully worry doesn't affect outcome (they say) else no one will get a positive. It's a very stressful period, so it's normal to worry.. fingers crossed you will get a BFP 🤞🏾🤞🏾

[Travel27]

Feeling better today. Probably as I've now accepted that I don't think its worked. I feel really normal again (apart from the extensive bruising from all the injections) and so am wondering whether to POAS tomorrow as I'd planned or just wait until OTD on Monday and results next Wednesday. I'm now feeling so much like it hasn't worked I'm sort of looking forward to still being able to eat soft cheese next weekend at a cheese tasting course my husband got me for Christmas. Accompanied by wine of course... 🤣😉

[Travel27]

Tested this morning - BFN. Trying hard not to feel too down about it as it might mean nothing. OTD is Monday 17th, hopefully a different outcome but as I said above, kind of convinced myself it hasn't worked anyway. Don't know why.

Last night I had 2 separate dreams about having positive tests though which was rather cruel of my subconscious 😩

[Cinderella5 in reply to Travel27]

Awww Im sorry to hear you have gotten a negative so far, it is still fairly early days and may change but very disappointing for you! I tend to have those crappy dreams too. Hnag on in there, still a good few days to go, good luck.xx

[Domeris]

Hello Travel27, I am new to the group and yours was one of the first posts that I read as I am 8DP5DT and I am due to test on Wednesday. I like many people on this site have been trying to conceive for years after having a natural pregnancy that ended in miscarriage at 8 weeks. I’ve had 3 failed IUIs and this is my first DET. Other than feet cramps (which could be caused by dehydration) and lower back ache (which could be due to a fibroid that, despite several hysteroscopies refuses to be moved) I have had no other symptoms. I’m praying for a different outcome for you whilst hoping for the best for me. Stay positive. Sending you blessings x

[Travel27 in reply to Domeris]

Wishing you all the best of luck too!