2 week wait-heavy bleeding

[Amber286]

Hi there,

I have had 2 embryos transferred and am 42.

I have had light spotting on day 9 and now day 10 I have heavy bleeding with clots, now also experiencing back pain and cramping. It is heavier in the evening. Today has been my worse day as I haven’t stopped crying because of the thought of having negative outcome. This is my last chance of IVF & I have no embryo frozen. I am due to have blood test on Monday next week. I have contacted my clinic but they just said it’s not an usual to bleed. I am on pessaries & they have advised for me to continue inserting it with my fingers.

Has anyone gone through similar thing and got pregnant? Am terrified of the outcome.

[Scarlett13]

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this right now, and as I’m sure you know this could go either way as some women bleed and are fine and for others it’s their period. I hope one or both of your embryos will stick around. Waiting for Monday to come around seems far too long and cruel to wait for confirmation. Is it at your clinic? Is there any way you can have the hcg test done tomorrow? I had mine done at my GP surgery when I couldn’t get to my clinic. There’s nothing I can say to make you feel better as I know exactly what you’re going through and how distressed you’ll be feeling, all I can say is look after yourself and rest and be kind to yourself until you know for sure what’s going on xxx

[Amber286 in reply to Scarlett13]

Thanks Scarlet for your lovely message. You try not to stress but your emotional get the better of you, especially knowing that I will not have a chance again. I am scheduled to take blood test at the clinic on Monday next week but I have also been given a home kit to do it before Monday. This two weeks have been so difficult. You stress yourself to make sure you are doing everything right but then the inevitable happen. I am trying to stay positive but it is hard. I hope and pray that I will get a surprise news by the end of two weeks.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Amber. My advice would be to continue with any medication you have been prescribed, as you had two embryos transferred. Maybe one has failed, I don’t know, but you have to carry on for the second embryo. Hope all settles down, so have a rest when you can. Thinking of you. Diane

[Amber286 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane, great advice x

[Mary80]

I'm so sorry to read this. People that have not gone through infertility will not understand the struggle. I have done two IVF and it all failed. The first one, I started cramping on day 8/9 and I was so curious to do a pregnancy test on day 10/11 and it was BFN. The 2nd Ivf I started cramping day 7, out of curiosity I did pregnancy test again on day 9/10 which was BFN.

Just do a pregnancy test even if its not up to two weeks just to keep your mind sane. And pls stop crying, you are doing yourself more harm than good, imagine the anxiety and the pain. Pls talk to someone , maybe family or close your friend, don't bear the burden alone. It's too heavy on the chest. I spoke to my siblings and cried my eyes out when mine failed but stopped when I was getting depression. Don't forget to spend time with God. Hugs

[Amber286 in reply to Mary80]

Thanks for your message. We decided not to tell anyone about it because we didn’t want anyone to keep asking us especially when things don’t go well.i am due to do pregnancy test on Sunday and I hope and pray that it will be good news x

[Amber286 in reply to Amber286]

It is heart breaking, you are so right that people don’t understand what you go through. I am also so sorry to hear about your failed embryos. Knowing that I know now I would of started ivf earlier. X

[Amber286]

Today I did the test, it’s BFN.. There’s no words can describe how I feel right now. I will never have a child😢😢😢.... I have experience this much pain...

[Rella22 in reply to Amber286]

Hi amber,

My heart is breaking for you. I’m so deeply sorry. No words can take away that pain but know you’re not alone in experiencing this anguish of struggling with infertility.

I’m sending you lots of love and a big massive hug. Will you be going for follow-up appointment to discuss what happened and next options..?