Hi everyone
I’m just wondering how soon you told your parents your pregnant? And how soon for close friends?
For couples not having IVF it’s usually 3 months but being as I’m assuming parents and family knows and asking questions, how soon did you tell them?
I’m excited to tell my parents but at the same time cautious.
I’m 11dp5dt BFP AT 9dp.
I’m thinking wait till the scan in 3 weeks time?
Interested in what others have done.
I’m dying to tell someone!!!!
Thankyou 😙
I told my folks about 30 secs after the pregnancy test he he he! I only told people who I knew would be there for me if things went wrong. Xx
Hi
I felt the same as you very cautious so I waited till after the viability scan mainly to protect myself if anything bad happened at the scan I couldn’t bare breaking my families hearts as well as my own. Lucky I’m 17wks and everyone is super excited now
It’s completely up to you when you tell them it has to be when is best for you!
Congratulations on your good news xXx
I told my parents, and other very close family and friends who knew we'd had our FET, as soon as I could get a photo of the test onto a message! For other people who didn't know we had had a treatment cycle we waited until about 16 weeks. X
I told my parents and brother immediately... and waited for 12 weeks to tell friends and other family members... as I knew my mum wouldn’t tel anyone in the family... xxx
I’m thinking maybe just parents on Friday. Do t think I can wait another 3 weeks. They are excited too so would be cruel to keep it from them!
My parents didn’t know when we were cycling and we decided not to tell them about our bfp until after the 7 week scan. Tbh I regret that now as sadly it wasn’t good news for us, which we did decide to share with them so it’s sad they didn’t get to share in our little bit of joy whilst it lasted. I think it’s fine to cautiously tell whoever you would want to support you in the worst of times. Big congrats on your positive and best of luck for the scan ☘️Don’t waste time worrying about what might or might not be and enjoy it 💖 xx
Pregnancies (not with ivf) but I told parents and close family straight away but we’ve mc 3 at 12w. If we fall again I’d keep it just between us until we knew for sure what was happening it wouldn’t be a secret and if we were to mc again I would tell people.
Did your family and close friends know you were going through IVF? Have they supported you on this journey, if yes I would share your wonderful news straight away. That's what we did and it was just amazing to be able to do that. I knew I would need their ongoing support as this is really just the beginning 😀 everyone else is Facebook got the news when I was 14 weeks pregnant.xxx
A little bit like Shelleybean we decided to wait until the scan last time but it didn’t last that long and it was hard only telling them about a miscarriage. We've just had a bfp and decided this time we will tell our parents at the weekend but will swear them to secrecy!
Congratulations x
I only told 5 people that new we was doing the ivf when the test was positive
Then family and best friend at 12 weeks scan
And then everyone else I didn’t tell till after my 20 week scan , I think I was so worried after waiting so long to get my positive that something would go wrong
Congratulations on your BFP! With my first pregnancy I told my mum straight away, but she knew all the details of my treatment. However between my first and second pregnancy I’d had a chemical pregnancy (which I didn’t tell her about) so I wanted to make sure it was going to stick before telling her so waited until after the viability scan. With my second one she just knew we were trying again but didn’t have details of the exact dates of transfer etc so wasn’t expecting any news.
With my first pregnancy it was my first round of ivf there were also a fair few other people knew about the process and were clued up on dates of when things were happening. I didn’t want to tell them until after the viability scan so I told a little white lie and said that the meds can give a false positive on a pregnancy test so whilst it wasn’t yet a no, I wouldn’t know for sure if it had worked until after the viability scan.
Hope the wait to the viability scan isn’t too bad!
We told my parents the day of the BFP from a home test. It happened to be father's day so it was fitting and my parents knew the dates of the IVF cycle so would know we'd be finding out one way or another soon. Told my in laws a week or two later, and my sis when I next saw her around the same time. I didn't tell my close friends until around 8 weeks and everyone else later, nearer 14 weeks I think. There's no right or wrong way to do it, but my advice is only tell those you trust early on. Congratulations! Xx
I'm 6 weeks now. I told my sister on the day I tested (around 4 weeks). I'm telling my the rest of my family as soon as possible but want to do it face to face so having to wait a little while. I'm telling my other sister today and my parents at the weekend. We will tell our friend possible after our 7 week scan.
The way I see it is these are the people that will support me if the pregnancy fails to progress. So i'm sharing the happy news now. And they'll be there to support me and pick up the pieces or continue to support me through my pregnancy.
Everyone is individual.
Congratulations.
Congratulations to you all. Your stories are lovely. Your all right you tell the people that know your having ivf and the ones that will support you.
We are going to tell parents Friday, then our friends that know after the scan and much longer for everyone else. Thank you for all the advice x
This totally depends on you. I dont think this 3 month rule is a real rule, it is just that after 3 months the chances of MC are really low and people wait until then so that they can be sure that everything will be OK. Because when you had a MC the last thing you probably want would be to run around and tell people that you had a MC...
I told some of my close friends and my mum immediately about 1 hour after I did the test, because they knew what I was all going through and I wanted them to understand how I am feeling. After my viability scan, I told a few more people. I also told my boss immediately, because I am a scientist working in a lab and there are certain things I am not allowed to do.
I am living abroad with my husband and last week we were on 2 family and friends events back home, so we told people there, although I was only 10 weeks. First, my belly was already quite visible and they wondered and also because we wont see them any more before the baby is born, so we thought it is nicer to tell them in person.
For colleagues from work, I will wait until I had my 12 week scan, as I dont really care whether they know or not xx
Everyone is different, but I could not keep it to myself 
I know I keep doing pregnancy tests to see if I’m still pregnant! This morning woke up with really severe cramps lasted about 10 mins. Sweating and felt like passing out with the pain!! No blood or anything so I’m guessing stretching pains
I’ve told everyone everything every step of the way!
Hi, we had IVF and didn’t tell anyone in the family we were doing it. We told two very close friends we were going to be having it but not exactly when. We then told friends and family after the 12 week scan and blood test results. We wanted to check everything was OK before announcing it. Some people like the support of family or close friends knowing but my family especially would have been a nightmare with their well meant questions so early on and I didn’t really think I could cope with the stress 😂
Heyy!! We’re the same! We’ve got an abroad holiday with my family and we are big drinkers and we’re telling my dad before we go to take all the precautions we can, I’ve got three younger rambling brothers! So that we can let him know what’s going on. He didn’t know we were having ivf. Telling my mum and then husbands side of family after our other scan next week (viability) because I couldn’t tell my dad and not my mum and then I feel bad on his side of family. These two sets know were going through ivf. It’s soooo hard!!! I told my two best friends as soon as I got positive tests early. Told my boss (really close friend) as he knows about the ivf and our cycle. It’s sooo hard I want to tell everyone!!! Cxxxx
I took a pregnancy test 2 days before the blood test and got a VERY positive test (this was a frozen cycle so no hcg in any drugs i had taken prior), called mum is tears straight away and told my sister. Told my friends who knew i was going through ivf a few days after blood test if they knew when that was taking place but only if they asked me. And then the rest of my family and friends at 15 weeks. Didn't see the point in doing it any earlier when the people who were close to me knew.
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