Hi there, I'm new to this site as was looking for support as much as Im lucky enough to have friends and family around me they don't understand the true feelings I go through. Reading some of your success stories has given me hope one day me and my partner will become parents. And the ones that still are waiting for that day, I hope your dreams come true.
My situation is this, sadly my partner has a very low sperm count 98% abnormal so are waiting for our transfer to go through on our chosen clinic for IVF. Luckily I'm all ok on the fertility side so my partner as you can imagine blames himself a lot and hates talking about it as he thinks it's his fault. I have a good relationship with my parents and my mum is my first port of call when I need advice or comforting.
But my partner on the other hand hasn't spoken to anyone about it, expect me (and that's only when I bring it up) he's so closed up, but I have suggested he tells his mum as she hasn't got a clue what's going on and she's asking questions like 'when you two going to have kids?' Etc.. and I also think she's needs to know what her son is going through. She would be devistated if she found out off someone else. I've told him I could tell her myself or get his brother to but he doesn't want that. He said the less people who know the better, if it doesn't work that doesn't put as much pressure on us. I see both sides of the argument and I would never go behind his back and tell her without him knowing, but it's not just him in this relationship. Do you think I'm right in her knowing or not? Can anyone give him any advice on what I could do to get him to tell her?
He also around the same time of finding out about his fertility issues, lost his dad very suddenly. So he is very fragile as he has had breakdowns over the last few months
Thanks in advice for your messages