Hi all hope your all well and are having a nice day.
My husband and I finally have the go ahead for IVF on the NHS.. (YIPEE) after we have been trying to conceive for over 3 years now with having two miscarriages and a laproscopy for Endometriosis . I have just had three cycle's of clomid although it did its job we never had any luck with baby making :-(.
We are both feeling positive about IVF but my only concern at the moment is whether or not to tell our parents what our plans are. They are aware that IVF is in our minds . The trouble is my husbands Mum is great to talk too about things, she just seems to know the right thing to say in any situation if that makes sense but then my Mum is a real worrier and I always feel uneasy being around her when thing don't go to plan. Understandable she was very upset when I miscarried but I feel I have to put on a brave face when I'm around her and be the strong one although its us actually going through it all. I know every one is different and copes different but you would almost think that she is the one going through it and not me if that makes sense, bless her heart she just doesn't have great coping mechanisms
. Don't get me wrong I couldn't have wished for a nicer Mum and think the world of her.
Apart of me wants to tell my parents because we are excited that we are having IVF but then the other part doesn't want to be worrying about how my mums feeling as we shall need to be focusing on what we are doing with treatment etc. I want to tell my husbands parents though but would feel awful them knowing and not telling mine . Shall we tell both sets of parents or just my husbands or none at all? So sorry for the long post and I hope I dont sound to miserable.Just wondering what would you ladies do in this situation?
Also we have only just started the process with paper work etc and have been told to have various blood tests done, Roughly how long could we be waiting to actually start the treatment? Does any one know ? I understand that areas are different .
I am sooooo excited but also scared at the same time. It has been such a long and hard 3 years.
Wishing you all the best as usual