When pregnant how did you cope with peoples questions

[Bluelady-sing]

After going through hell. How did you cope with questioning

[destiny121]

What kind of questions?

[Bluelady-sing in reply to destiny121]

Like when are you due?

[destiny121 in reply to Bluelady-sing]

Ohh I see what you mean... totally depends on whether anyone knows your troubles... for me I didn’t tell anyone accept for my mum and brother so was happy to share due dates etc. If I had told others my struggles I think I’d still be ok to share...

[Kempton]

If you've been married for a long time and it's taken a while to conceive, you can probably expect a lot of quizzing. IT was annoying to be honest!

I think I coped by having a default response. Usually something along the lines of "we feel so blessed, just taking it all slowly... There's a long way to go" etc.

It's funny how nosey people think they can be. A distant relative had the cheek to ask us "did you have ivf?" When we were first announcing our pregnancy. I thought, surely that can't be your first question?! We chose to tell only a small few that we went through ivf so I was very taken aback. I remember it to this day. I'd never have the audacity to ask that question - I'd celebrate the couple's news not poke into their journey to conception!

[Apple87 in reply to Kempton]

Can totally relate to this. We got asked the ivf question too. It’s just rude and uncalled for. X

[Kempton in reply to Apple87]

Well a couple who conceived naturally are unlikely to be faced with questions like "was it in doggy or missionary that you conceived"! Lol

[Apple87 in reply to Kempton]

😂 this made me laugh so loud. So true though . Only the grandparents know so I’ve had all sorts from how long you been trying and how did you find out and do twins run in your family (they do actually) how will you breast feed them etc. All very personal questions to me. X

[E_05]

I use to say after all we’ve been through we’re just taking one day at a time. To family and close friends I made it quite clear that I didn’t want to constantly talk about my pregnancy as it made me more anxious x

[Vegemite]

Honestly..... I don’t tell people

I tell them I look fat because of the IVF drugs...

[Apple87]

I find it quite tiring and people can be very nosy and rude. I’ve been quizzes on everything from conception, breastfeeding to maternity leave etc. You need patience!

[Apples2665]

I’ve not had any negative questions - just the usual when you’re due, etc. Which I’m more than happy to answer. I’ve been very open about having ivf since getting pregnant (not so much before) and have since found out that a lot of my friends are struggling with fertility. I’m not shouting it from the rooftops but certainly not embarrassed by it and think it’s important to talk about it x

[sandra81]

When I was pregnant because of the bleeding I had early on I did. It tell people (only my two sisters who were my pillars of support through it all). Naturally I have a big body such that although I was carrying twins it became visible around 6 and half months. By that time I had taken off work so had to tell my boss ofcourse. When they heard about the birth of my twins most of my workmates thought I had adopted and my neighbourhood were equally surprised. After 6 months I went to stay with my sister so they never really saw anything. Having said that now I do not shy away about talking about ivf because it may help someone in need. I have realized that people suffer in silence and some people do not even know that there are options