Sad post time - failed FET

[MJD1712]

A brief history. 2 miscarriages in 2012. Followed by horrendous periods until endometriosis diagnosed 2016 by laparoscopy. 2017 ivf got one embryo resulted in miscarriage. 2019 failed fresh IVF cycle but had 3 extra embies....frozen cycle....tested this morning and it was negative. Had a bit of a cry. Couldn't get back to sleep. Just dont think I can keep doing this anymore. 2 embryos still frozen but I just dont think I can face it anymore. Hubby and I are heartbroken. Thanks for listening.

[Rainbowhope]

I'm so sorry that you had another BFN. Every time I had a BFN I feel like 8 can't go on and want to give up. That's completely normal. But after taking some time to get myself together I change my mind and get back in the fight. Maybe you need to take some time to yourself before making any decisions. Be kind to yourself while you recover from this. I know it's hard But you will recover. Xxxx

[kitscat]

I’m so sorry! It is awful to get a negative PT. like rainbowhope said, take some time out for yourself now and treat yourself. You will feel strong enough to tackle this again soon xxx

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm sorry hon, it's an awful disappointment.

You don't have to decide anything right now, your frosties aren't going anywhere. Take your time to process everything and if/when you do decide to try again they'll be there waiting for you xxx

[_MrsC]

I’m so sorry to read your post. It is so hard to cope with those BFNs. I completely understand the questioning whether you can continue with it all. Maybe after a bit of time you will be able to. However I wanted to say that if you don’t, that’s also completely understandable. We stopped after we got to the point of not feeling we could continue. We mourned the biological child we will never have. We’ve spent time getting back our lives and appreciating what we do have in life - each other. Now we’re in the early process of adopting and feel excited about the future. It’s almost like after we first got married and were planning for the future. I guess I’m trying to say that there is something beyond closing the door on IVF. It might not be what you originally envisioned but it could still be wonderful. xxx

[emiliajj]

First of all I am so sorry to hear about your sad news. You and I are on the same boat. Failed ICSI in April and 2 weeks ago I had FET heavy period came last Tuesday was so heart broken and it crashed me, couldn’t understand it was 4AA embryo was so hard. my OTD is tomo wouldn’t even bother to Test.

We had 2 Frosties left and might give it couple of months to try again. DH is so supportive this difficult time.

I hope that your loving and caring family and friends is around you. It help to ease the sadness a lil bit.

My mama told me yesterday knowing that we still have 2 possibilities (2Frosties left) is something worth looking forward to. While reading your post I can say the same to you. Let’s allow ourselves to grieve and when we are ready emotionally & physically there’s still 2 possibilities for us,lovely. Warmest hugs, xxx

[Cinderella5]

I'm really sorry to hear about your failed FET. It never really gets any easier however I wouldn't make any rash decisions for now. Take some time out, plan something nice for yourselves, cry, hug and just be you! Those frosties are safely on ice until you decide what your next steps are. Big hugs.xxx

[hannahding]

I can understand how hard this must be for you. Stay strong and positive. I am sure things will get better. Just don't lose hope. BFN can be really hard to go through. Especially when the hopes are high. However, struggle is part of this journey.

[Elynn]

It's a hard journey and your hearts are bruised again. It's understandable.

Big hugs.