Another failed FET cycle, sigh

[Seha04]

Just received news that my FET has failed.. I was so hopeful for this cycle to work.. feeling so depressed and I really don’t know what to do next. That was my last 2 frozen embryos. Been in this ivf nightmare for far too long.. feeling so lost right now. How does one bounce back after so many failures? I’m finding it harder and harder after each failed cycle. I feel so alone, none of my friends or family understand what I’m going through.

[Shirazlover2013]

Hi seha, I’m so sorry your recent FET didn’t work out. I read back through your old posts to remind me of your journey and saw I’d replied a year ago to one of your posts and it reminded me that here we are still plodding along this road 😢. I’m so sorry you are still on this journey, I’m so sad to still be on it with you too. It isn’t fair. Right now it’s time to grieve, be kind to yourself and do whatever it takes to get through these next few days and weeks. And then slowly maybe think about what to do next. A follow up consultation is always what I do, sometimes I do it straight away sometimes I book it on for a few weeks time to give me some thinking space. Sending big hugs your way xoxo

[Seha04 in reply to Shirazlover2013]

Thanks, hugs to u too! Yeah, it’s a long and tiring process and age is catching up. Feeling disheartened after all the failures; I just need 1 miracle 👶 . I really need to plan my next course of action.

[Luna_79]

So sorry to hear this, I think for now take the time to grieve and process, it’s raw right now. Maybe take some time out and then reassess. It just seems so unfair doesn’t it when all we want is that beautiful bundle in our arms, to go through all of this to then get a negative result after all that hope is heart breaking but keep strong, I hope you have some support around you, take time to heal xx

[Seha04 in reply to Luna_79]

Thanks! Unfortunately, I don’t have much support around me (aside from DH) as family/friends have not experienced what I’m going through so they can’t relate. I stopped sharing much about my journey with them coz somehow, whatever they say seems to upset me more, everytime.

Hope you’re doing well and sorry your last cycle failed. All the best for your next FET! Unfortunately, I’ve used up all my ❄️ 👶 so I’ll be a whole next cycle all over again.

[Luna_79 in reply to Seha04]

Ah it’s hard isn’t it, and know what you mean I think people don’t often know what to say and then say something ridiculous the best one yet was my mother in law saying well at least after the IVF all your bits will be working now!!! I’m like my ‘ bits have always been working fine’! Frustrating as I’m 40 everyone thinks it’s because of my age, whilst I get time isn’t on my side actually it’s hubby’s low count and motility that’s the issue but it doesn’t matter what the issue is, either way we’re in it together but yes peoples insensitivity sometimes just leaves you dumbfounded! Hope you have had a little time for you and you and your hubby are doing ok , here’s hoping your next cycle Is successful xxx

[Seha04 in reply to Luna_79]

Hope so too! Urgh, I’ll be having my post failure review with my doc later, so not looking forward to that! Wishing u all the best! Ur in your 2ww now?

[Luna_79 in reply to Seha04]

Hi ya good to hear from you, hope a few weeks to process things has helped ease the pain a little. I found my review last time really helpful, made a plan for the next round and it gave me something to focus on - that was April and before I knew it - August was here and here I am again. Hopefully it won’t be too long until you can try again , sending you much love 💕 xx

[Seha04 in reply to Luna_79]

Keep me posted on ur results! You can do it!