Being kind

[Judy18]

So i have just come home from a meeting at work with my boss. I asked to catch up to give her an update on where i was. I completely broke down. I finally admitted to her (and myself) that i needed some time. The lack of sleep and inability to switch off combined with a need to hide had finally become too much. She was really supportive and now i have some time off to get my head round things.

To anyone who is fighting to remain “normal” and worried about what other may say (i know i was). Just take a minute to think about what you need! If that means some time out to cry, research and just get some sleep- do it. It has taken me a few weeks to get here and i have read lots of info- experiences of others and quotes. So do what you need!

You are strong. Having emotions is strong! Whatever helps you heal or act as a soothing balm is helping!

Wishing everyone on here luck and love on their journeys! You have all really helped me so far. Just remember to be kind to yourselves xxxx

[Franco81]

I love when you wrote ‘having emotions is strong’. You’re so right, being emotional isn’t a bad thing, we’re all human and all of us here going through a really rough time. We really should to look after ourselves and listen to what our body tells us we need.

I’m so pleased that you have been able to give time to yourself, the most important person! I’m doing the same at the moment and the world hasn’t stopped, in fact it feels really nice! Xx

[Judy18]

I think we sometimes forget that we are human and that sometime needing time and taking it is the strong option!

So pleased that you are doing the same and finding it helpful. It is nice finding people in the same boat who understand what your going through! Xx

[Solly-44]

I love this post. It takes courage to tell people (and also like you say, admit to yourself) that you’re struggling and need some time.

I thought I was going to be the one that completely took all this in my stride (hah!). I’d had quite intensive treatment which involved LOADS of scans during cycle tracking so had used almost all of my annual leave for hospital appointments for the last 2 years. No time looking after myself, or doing anything fun or relaxing, and so when my first round failed I had a complete breakdown and ended up being signed off work. I was off for 5 weeks in the end.

In retrospect I should have taken time off like you did, to get my head together. It is such hard work, physically and mentally, places strain on relationships and finances, the whole shebang! l think you’ve done the right thing in putting yourself first, it really is admirable. Wishing you so much luck on your journey xx

[Laren86]

Good for you - this is lovely to read! You have to put yourself first at times like this

[runsoncuddles]

Thank you for sharing, this isn't a message hear often as women let alone those dealing with fertility issues. You really did well for speaking up and not suffering in silence.xx