Just a little advice and perspective needed ladies..my mother in law has made unwanted comments about grandchildren for a number of years now, the usual I guess..'when will I be a grandma' / 'I'm the only one of my friends without grandchildren' etc. It's been upsetting, annoying, frustrating etc, I'm sure lots of us have had to endure it but before beiny diagnosed with endometriosis and starting IVF we've always been able to grin & bear it. However once we started fertility treatment my husband has had to have a word with her a couple of times because despite knowing what we were facing, the comments still came, infrequently but even so.
Things did get better the further we got into treatment and the more failures we had, we thought she'd finally realised we're not deliberately trying to deny her grandchildren and that it's actually really hard for us. Not so..just recently she made another comment about a friend of hers (the same age) becoming a grandmother for the 4th time, whilst she, with a son in his 40's still doesn't even have one.
She said this with other family members around and I don't think anyone could believe she'd actually said it, even though she knows we've had 3 failed cycles last year. Not wanting to spoil the occasion we were gathered for, I just replied that we were doing our best but I think it was obvious to everyone the comment had upset me.
However she just brushed it off and carried on talking and I was left feeling silly and that I was over reacting (not with other family members) I think she probably thinks I'm being too sensitive and you start to question whether you are or not.
What do you think ladies? Any advice on how to deal with this situation would be much appreciated too, I don't want to cause rifts in the family but there's only so much we can take xx