So official test day today. First ever ivf cycle 3day transfer 2x embryos. I got a BFN! I’m gutted!! I knew yesterday it was the end as I started spotting but I still held onto hope! My OH has been so positive the whole way through. Was so sad to see his face too.
I’m thinking of trying again but not sure how many times I can go through this!
Sorry to hear hun! I’ve read that the average is 2 tries for it to work so keep going! You made it this far you can have a bfp next time
Thank you for your reply. I hope so as we can only afford one more try! We were refused NHS funding because out doctors were in neighbouring catchment areas. Not had the best of luck with the journey so far. It’s one knock after another.
I’m sure after a chat with the clinic I’ll feel better as I’m normally as optimistic person. But need a day of eating what I want and A few wines today! Then back onto the health wagon tomorrow! Want to give my eggs the best chance.
Are you in the middle of a cycle?
So sorry it hasn’t worked out for you. I remember that heart breaking moment. It’s not fair after all we go through. I know everyone says it but it takes a bit of time but you’ll start to see the light again. We have decided only one more round as we don’t want to keep going through the emotional and financial turmoil. The Ivf team were able to analyse data of where things were less than perfect and have switched my meds for next time (end of July) so you may also get an ‘action plan’ in place to boost your chances for next time. Rest up and fingers crossed for you next round. Xx
Thank you for your reply. I hope so as we can only afford one more try! We were refused NHS funding because out doctors were in neighbouring catchment areas. Not had the best of luck with the journey so far. It’s one knock after another.
I’m sure after a chat with the clinic I’ll feel better as I’m normally as optimistic person. But need a day of eating what I want and A few wines today! Then back onto the health wagon tomorrow! Want to give my eggs the best chance.
Good luck with your journey! 🤞🏼
That surprises me, I thought everyone had a right to one nhs fund- as long as TTC for year and meet health requirements etc. You may qualify if you change clinics? Your dr should be able to refer you to a clinic who will support nhs round, but obviously this would take time and I know that the time everything takes is part of the struggle. Yes stuff your face for at least a day! Maybe two you have earned it x
Where we live we have to have the same catchment for min of 3 years before they let you have nhs funding. I’ve written to the national health secretary about it! Only reason we weren’t in the same was because we were in the process of buying a house in my partners catchment so I moved to his once moved not knowing this was going to happen. The MP replied and said the criteria is being looked at again in sep and this may change. We’ll see.
Also contemplating overseas as that seems to be another option where we might get more rounds for our money...
I’m so sorry to read this, seeing that bfn after all you’ve been through is just such an awful feeling. As you said give yourself today to eat crap and drink wine. I always feel a bit better when I’ve had my follow up appointment and we are at the start again if that makes sense? Wishing you lots of luck if you decide to go again xx
I'm sorry it hasn't worked out this round. I really admire your positive outlook Sarah, it will take you far on this journey. Hang in there and eat what you like, pamper yourself and rest. I hope and pray the next round will be a success for you x
Thank you. I had to have a plan b ready if it failed so that I didn’t fall into a dark hole. I don’t want to sit on it. Keep moving forward until we get our dream.
Good luck to you! I see you are halfway through your 2ww! I must admit it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever been through! I hope this works for you! It’s always encouraging to see other people’s successes 😊
I’m so sorry to read this. My OTD is today, my hpt looks negative too 
I posted it to get other opinions because I need to call my clinic and tell them my result. I’m so sad, my OH tried to hug me but I just couldn’t, I was too disappointed.
It’s horrible isn’t it! I know it’s hard for you but try not to isolate your feelings from your OH as you are a team and in this together. Can you try again? I’m finding trying to put an action plan together helpful. Like it’s not over yet and this is a bump in a long road. Keeping focused on my dream in between a little cry here and there.
Just sucks and my whole social media is people either pregnant, announcing or recently had and I’m just thinking surely I’ll get my chance at this!
Wishing you the best luck! Xx
It is horrible! I’m finding it so hard, I feel heartbroken. It’s good that you’re keeping focussed and have a plan, I’m just wallowing at the moment. I knew last week that it didn’t work and today just felt like confirmation. Everyone says to stay positive, I try, but it’s tough! I’m glad that work has distracted me during the week though.
We have 12 excellent quality embryos in the freezer, the plan is to have another FET. I’m not sure if I want to jump right back into another cycle or take a break. We have more try on the NHS. I’ve also read that taking a break or not doesn’t effect chances either way but it’s good for mental health. The past 5 months, I’ve not been myself. Physically and mentally. So maybe a break from IVF and holiday is in order!!! Xxx
We didn’t end up with any to freeze which was gutting as our doc seemed to think we would. I didn’t really do the full protein diet that is recommended last time. I ate healthy but just balanced and wonder if that effected my egg quality and that’s why I didn’t get to freeze them.
Hopefully one of your Frosties is the golden egg! To have 12 frozen is really good. Well done! You stand a good chance!
I’m worried that they’re bad batch. Also, a balanced diet is great for growing good eggs, as long as there’s some protein and you don’t have masses of sugar and ready made meals. Maybe if you do another round, up your intake of protein hopefully you’ll have some quality eggs to work with.
I think eventually me and OH will go private, so I’m starting saving now. I’m going to do one more FET with NHS, if it doesn’t work I’m going to do a fresh cycle again.
It will work out for the both of us! Eventually! 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞
I'm really sorry to hear this. Just take a break from it for a while to give yourself a chance to come round.
Really sorry to read about your result. I was in a similar situation at the beginning of may with a negative result following transfer of 2 3-day embryos from my first cycle. I was absolutely devastated. I spent a long weekend with my husband and sister, doing fun things and eating/drinking nice treats and that definitely helped.
I booked a follow up appt with my clinic for a couple of weeks later and that really helped me. We discussed my cycle and how it went and planned for the next one, this has really helped me to focus.
Take time to process the result and some time for yourself and hopefully you will be ready to think about the next cycle. Wishing you all the best.
So sorry to hear this. Sending hugs, take time you both need xx
So sorry to hear that , I also got a BFN 2 days ago after transferring 2. Soul destroying. I want to try again straight away. Did u have anything to freeze?xxx
No nothing to freeze. Did you? I just feel abit lost. I want to start again straight away. While my mind set is ready.
This is my second Cycle and I started it straight away, I felt.same as you, wanted to do it when my mindset was right. First cycle I only had 1 embryo left to transfer so nothing to freeze. This time I had 2 transferred and 3 frozen. I took a lot of different vitamins and supplements. If u want more info I'm writing another girl out a list of what I didn't differently to get more embryos xx
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