Another pregnancy announcement... And a very insensitive one at that!

[aamiller405]

I know this is going to be a ranty post but I know this is the best place for it.

A friend of mine.. Or at least i thought she was a friend hasn't asked about my journey since I told her I was starting my first round of ICSI. This was back in Feb.

So tonight it finally comes up in conversation, well sort of, I explained I was sick and the other friend in the group chat said she already knew and she was like ohh have a missed something?

I said no I was talking to the other friend about it privately in another chat because this sickness has all kind of came about following my ICSI cycle and because you didn't ask about the ICSI I didn't want to be the one to bring it up (because she has also been trying to get pregnant for a few months).

And what is her reply... To tell me that she's pregnant!!!! Doesn't even ask how the cycle went or what stage were at or anything

I have no point to this post I just needed to vent...

[GreenApples]

I so get you! Some people are so insensitive.. you really find out your friends going through this. Sending you love and hugs x

[aamiller405 in reply to GreenApples]

Thank you xo

[Shirazlover2013]

Gosh knows why people do what they do!!! But yeah it makes you want to tear your hair out doesn’t it 🤬 vent away. Do you think she just doesn’t know what to say? Either that or she’s just so caught up in herself she is clueless. Maybe just steer clean of her for a while xx

[aamiller405 in reply to Shirazlover2013]

I think she's just very caught up in herself.. Yeah Ive already been drifting away from her think ill continue to do so.. Thanks xo

[Drives]

There doesn't need to be a point to your post lovely - vent away 😘 that's what we are here for. Sending you a big hug x x

[aamiller405 in reply to Drives]

Thank you very much xox

[Kiedy84]

Nooo🙄🙄🙄 that's just awful, why are some people so so insensitive 😥

Sending lots of love xxx

[aamiller405 in reply to Kiedy84]

Thank you xoxo

[Lorita1984]

I totally understand how you feel. When I decided to share with my friends that I was starting Ivf one of them repled ohhhhhh no one wants children these days. Two months after she announced she got pregnant and also mentioned it was their first time trying. I couldn't beleive it.

I know it's hard... And us girls that are going through it understand well the hearth pain.

Wish you the very best in your journey xxxx

[aamiller405 in reply to Lorita1984]

Uck some people eh! Thank you and you too xo

[staaa88]

I’m the sort to publicly call them out, but I know some people find this awkward. But if there’s anyone who needs to be called out it’s your friend. How utterly rude of her. Hope you’re ok xxx

[aamiller405 in reply to staaa88]

It's funny because I was actually about to because of her not asking for months, then while I'm in the process she drops thats she's pregnant.. Actually messaged my other friend saying "aw ffs can't be a b**ch now that she's pregnant.. Can I? ' xo

[staaa88 in reply to aamiller405]

You’re not being a bitch you’re saying it how it is and I definitely think it’s easier to get stuff off your chest than to bottle it up xx

[Emska77]

I totally empathise. I am constantly amazed at people’s inability to show compassion or even acknowledge what we are going through. It’s bit much to ask for a bit of sensitivity. Definitely in the right place for a good rant. Rant away!! X

[aamiller405 in reply to Emska77]

Thank you.. People never cease to amaze lol xo

[3005]

Vent away... we get it!

We all have that someone among many who just does not understand.

Hope you’re ok x

[aamiller405 in reply to 3005]

Thank you I'm OK xo

[S_asha]

People are so insensitive! I'm truly annoyed at your friend for you. Hope you will be ok. People have no idea how it feels I don't think and so just simply don't understand the feeling of wanting we have. I was told yesterday 'it will happen stop worrying' and then 'try the app I used I got pregnant within 2 weeks of downloading it' 🤦🏼‍♀️wow thanks. . All problems solved ... should've thought of that one... 🤦🏼‍♀️ hope you will feel a bit better soon xx

[aamiller405 in reply to S_asha]

Aw im sorry people really don't get it to they. Thank you for your message xo

[Katbaby19]

Wow...that is the definition of a toxic friend. You need to slowly remove her from your life. That is so selfish to disregard your treatment never mind announcing a pregnancy in a group chat like that. Very insensitive. Maybe let your other friend know how you feel as she seems to be more supportive. Xx

[aamiller405 in reply to Katbaby19]

Thank you.. Yeah my other friend has been great.. I think we're both planning to just let the friendship just drift apart xo

[Katbaby19]

Good because you dont want her to turn the situation around make you feel like this is your fault when she is the one who ignored you in the first place xxx

[Blue200]

I really understand how you feel,

I’ve had countless family and friends get pregnant in the 5 years since we’ve been trying and it’s heartbreaking.

We are having a donor egg transfer on Monday and most of my husbands family haven’t even wished him good luck. Even on Saturday they were posting endless pictures of their kids to our family group totally oblivious to the fact we are about to have our donation. It’s weird as we are a close family. I don’t understand how people can be so selfish and ignorant.

Keep with people who are supportive and 🖕to those who aren’t.

Good luck to you in you journey xxx

[aamiller405 in reply to Blue200]

Aw best of luck to you on Monday! Yeah it does show you who really cares about you doesn't it xo

[AJJ123]

It’s like ppl want to point out how easy it is for them. Like they’ve won a competition.

I don’t let it suck me in as much anymore. I secretly hope they get really fat and end up with loads of stretch marks. I know it’s unkind but to be honest when you’ve tried for years and you get an insensitive message - or recently in my case a photo of a positive test with no message I just think 🖕 x

[aamiller405 in reply to AJJ123]

Ha yes I'm getting closer to you're way of thinking by the day! Lol oh flip sake how bloody insensitive to do that xo

[AJJ123 in reply to aamiller405]

I know didn’t have the decency to say it to my face. To be honest, it was probably easier to take lol xx

[aamiller405 in reply to AJJ123]

Yes at least when it's not to your face you can react how you want to in privacy lol xo