Need some encouragement

[Sunshineraye]

Hi ladies, I posted a couple of days about feeling really emotional and crap. I’m now on day 21 of buserelin and today has been hell. I feel like utter crap, my stomach has been killing me all day and I have the worst headache with no energy at all. I have a scan tomoro and practice transfer and I’m so worried about it. I keep questioning if I can do this process and do I just stop. Then, to top it off I overheard some neighbours talking outside saying how they all have several boys, and will keep going as they want a girl 😩both couples have one each year and have 3. it really upset me, I know it shouldn’t but I couldn’t help it as I’m really struggling the past few days.

Has anyone else has this feeling and almost gave up this far in? It’s not like me to feel like this and I don’t know what to do 😔

[HollyT7]

Don't give up, you are so close! We all have those terrible little blips. Just think, your going to get an amazing little baby from all of this.

I know how unfair this all feels but try your best to stay focused on the end goal, visualise how beautiful your bump is going to be and how good its going to feel to smell that little newborn baby 😘 this is going to happen.

xxx

[Sunshineraye in reply to HollyT7]

Thank you so much for your encouragement. I will keep going. I think I will feel better tomorrow once I’ve been to the clinic and hear what they have to say. Hopefully anyway! Thank you again for replying, means a lot xxx

[HollyT7 in reply to Sunshineraye]

You really will. Its the not knowing that does me. Take every day one step at a time, others peoples situation is different to ours and I don't think they will ever know how lucky they are. All we can do it keep on going, we are becoming so strong though all of this. Give yourself credit for coming this far already xxx

[AnnieAnnie]

Don't give up, you've come this far. It is the buserline making you feel this way. You can do this and what I've learnt though this process is you have to block out what others are doing around you and concentrate on your journey. It can be hard with how emotional all the meds make you feel but you need to look after you. Can you take some paracetamol to help with the stomach cramps? Make sure you are drinking plenty of water and rest when you can. I've never felt like stopping through a cycle but I have been very emotional, a good cry and a cuddle with my OH did help. You can do this, everything seems much worse than it actually is when it comes to doing it. Hope your scan goes well tomorrow xx

[Sunshineraye in reply to AnnieAnnie]

Thank you AnnieAnnie, I think I will feel better once I’ve been to the clinic tomorrow. I feel so agitated. I think the long weekend in someways hasn’t helped as I’ve had no work to take my mind off everything. I’ve ran out of paracetamol and not had any energy to go and get some

Thank you so much for your works of encouragement. Xxx

[Tigr]

Hi! I am sure all of us are wondering from time to time if we are doing the right thing and are struggeling to stay positive. There is a lot going on with your body - the emotional stress and the stress it experiences by the meds you are on. And it is really hard to hear people talking like this. They just don't know how difficult baby making can be and it is not supposed to hurt anyone. I know it hurts and really, there is no way to do it right. One of my friends told me she sometimes regrets having babies and envies me not having them (although she knows my struggle) and the other one tried to be not extremly happy about her pregnancy in front of me as she knew. Both hurt, both not intended to hurt me. Life sometimes sucks but you will get through this. You are asking a lot from yourself if you expect yourself to be super cool with all of the struggles and meds and grieving and "normal" life at the same time. It is ok, you will be fine. Sending positive vibes your way!

[Sunshineraye in reply to Tigr]

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. Yes your right, I’m just feeling very agitated the last couple of days. Doesn’t help that I’m still slightly bleeding.

My sister messaged me last week saying was pregnant with her 3rd and didn’t even ask how the ivf was going, we hadn’t spoken since jan! I had to politely say that I couldn’t talk right now. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone but I do wonder how she gets pregnant so easy and I’m going through this. I bet it was very hard to hear your friends say this, I have a friend who keeps mentioning how she fell pregnant within one month after coming off the pill! I guess unless you are in our situation they will never know. I appreciate your reply xxx

[staaa88]

Yessss! I felt like giving in at exactly the same stage, absolutely fed up. I got my first bfp ever today though! So keep going and don’t let anyone make you feel like you shouldn’t be upset, you’re going through a lot xx

[Sunshineraye in reply to staaa88]

Congratulations staa88, that’s amazing news and defo gives me hope.

I first feel pregnant 8 years ago with my husband and we miscarried. Then we kept trying for years but nothing so decided to go to the doctor. They then tried us on clomid as I wasn’t ovulating. We then fell on clomid but I had a early misscarriage. So now here we are! I have endometriosis, so they think that’s the main cause of me getting pregnant naturally. I felt so positive when I first started this but as times going on I’m feeling less and less positive but I guess that’s the hormones being all over the place doing. Thank you for your reply, it’s much appreciated xxx