My first IVF cycle 2 weeks ago resulted in only 3 eggs, despite having AMH of 14 and having max dosage of both Gonal F and Menopur. They decided on day to do icsi. Only 1 egg was mature, failed to fertilise. The other two matured over night and only 1 fertilised. The clinic doesn't transfer/freeze unless eggs reach blastocyst stage, which it didn't so by day 6 I was told that it was all over.
By day 6 we were actually fine. We had our appt with doctor two days later and she seemed surprised we were still smiling and making jokes. After we talked about how it wasn't meant to be, we were going to take a break and just concentrate on ourselves before we try again. We'd made a plan of bettering our health etc for better results.
And then a relative text to tell me she was pregnant again (3rd one in 5 years, she's 40 and gets pregnant the month she tries). I really love her and she's always sensitive to my feelings but her news totally crushed me and all I could think about was how it's so easy for everyone I know (family, friends) and I STILL can't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
So now I can't get out of this misery. On the surface i put on a good front , but inside I'm full of anger. How could I not get a single embryo? Why did my right ovary give me nothing, when all the endo was on my left ovary? We were hoping I'd get enough eggs that they would transfer one just to test and freeze the rest after surgery from haematosalpinx. I didn't want surgery - I had two surgeries in 13 months last year, the last one was so traumatizing. I just wanted the test embryo to work.
Nothing has changed. I'm back to where I was three years ago. And these 3 years have been full of excruciating pain and I don't even need to explain the emotional and mental struggles. I feel so let down.
Ugh.