Known donor

[Orla9298]

Hi everyone!

I had news yesterday that made me bawl my eyes out. I asked my beautiful friend if she would be my egg donor and she said she would love to 💕😭😭😭

We will be going for our first appointments in April as we are both on holiday back to back in March.

Has anyone done known donor rounds? I’d love to hear about it and anything you can tell me! So far we only tried my own eggs. We think we are both positive blood types, and I think cmv status also has to match, but fingers crossed!

This is the first time I have felt excited in ages xxx

[CatDV]

What a beautiful gesture from your friend xxx

All the best

[Refocus]

Oh wow, that's amazing!! What an incredible friend. My known donor (a friend) changed her mind last week 😢. Does your friend already have children? Best of luck, I hope it all goes smoothly xxx

[Orla9298 in reply to Refocus]

Oh I’m sorry... that must have been heartbreaking. She has one child and is single so no plan to have another at this stage. I just hope we match with bloods and cmv status etc, I’m not sure what we need to match for it to work out xx

[magda22 in reply to Orla9298]

CMV as far as I know if you are positive it doesn't matter what she is, if you are negative you need her to be negative too. Bloods I was told aren't usually a problem unless you have a very rare type. Guess all will become clear when you start tests! Much love x

[Orla9298 in reply to magda22]

Thank you for replying! She went for her screening bloods today and it’s 4 weeks wait for the results. So excited and hopeful, I hope we get the go ahead 🤞🏼🤞🏼

[Hidden]

Having s known Donor is hard I did consider my. Sister and she was all for it but it’s one thing to say yes but another after the birth we decided against it, it’s a lot to ask of anyone.

I hope it goes smoothly for you x

[Orla9298 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you... we will have to see how it pans out but we had a long talk and we both seem comfortable with it at this stage. We shall see later I guess🤞🏼

[Hidden in reply to Orla9298]

Good luck hun x

[Tugsgirl]

I really hope this all works out for you xx

[Orla9298 in reply to Tugsgirl]

Thanks lovely. Hope you’re doing well!xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Orla. Just wanted to wish you well and to thank your friend. Good luck! Diane

[Orla9298 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you... she was so kind the words she used... made me feel like for once this might just work out xx

[Emmaxxx]

Wow. That is wonderful. I really hope that it all works out. Xx

[tiger-cub]

Oh wow u are so lucky to have s friend like that. To be honest what she’s doing even family doesn’t at times . God bless. Hope u get ur sunshine soon.

[Orla9298 in reply to tiger-cub]

I know... my sister had promised but hadn’t had children yet. She is now pregnant with her first but only 7 weeks so I would have had to wait up to 18 months xx

[aamiller405]

What a precious friend xo

[Carmel1001]

I'm happy for you. I'm going through a donor cycle, and I would encourage both of you to have donor counselling. I hope you're not offended especially if you have arranged it, or done it.

I bring it up as a cousin did offer to donate an egg to me. On the clinic's advice we had donor counselling. It made us both aware that most research points to telling your child the truth at an early age they are the result of donor conception. For us, my cousin felt uncomfortable with the child knowing she had donated the egg in her creation , especially as we're close and always seeing each other. Also any treatment in the UK, the identity of the donor has to be kept open to the child when they are 18, so they would find this out anyway. With using my cousin, it was all becoming more like co-parenting, which is fine, but not what either of us wanted.

In the end, its best to do these things with your eyes open.

Hope it all works out for you.

[magda22]

This is wonderful Orla ❤️ I hope it all moves smoothly and beautifully for you. xx

[GiantPanda]

You are very lucky to have such an altruistic friend! It's so good to see that you're feeling positive again. I hope all goes well for you. Xxx

[Orla9298]

We got the full go ahead today (passed the counselling both of us and all the screenings) and my gorgeous amazing friend will be starting stims from her next period I’m around 4 weeks. I’m so excited and grateful ❤️

[Drives in reply to Orla9298]

What an amazing friend!! All the very best and good luck x x x