What next?

[KTL80]

Hi everyone,

Sorry in advance for the long post.

I have been an avid watcher on this site for over a year, with just an occasional post. This forum has provided me with so much information, support and comfort.

We have been TTC for over 3 years and like so many people on here, were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. First IVF cycle last October resulted in a BFP. Tragically lost our daughter at 23 weeks and 1 day due to an insufficient placenta. This was the toughest time of our lives but we got through it knowing we still had 4 Frosties and naively thought as it had worked first time it would, of course, happen again.

Had a FET in August, we lost one frosty during thaw, and had one transferred. This was a BFN. While waiting for our next FET we miraculously conceived naturally. Found out on my husband's 40th and it felt like a gift from our daughter. It wasn't to last and I miscarried at 6 weeks.

Yesterday we had confirmation that our second FET had not worked, blood test was a BFN.

Through everything I have always tried to stay positive and know that we are not ready to give up on this. But I am now feeling bereft. About to turn 39.

We have one frosty left so I want to throw absolutely everything at this to give us our best shot.

I suppose my question to you wonderful people is, what should I be asking in my next consultation? All our embryos have been excellent quality. They have used the word 'perfect' to describe the womb lining etc. I have been on progynova (12mg per day) and cyclogest (800mg) per day. No other medication (apart from the shots at the start of the FET). Have been having acupuncture for months and taking all the necessary pre-conception vitamins.

I see on this site people talking about all sorts of medication I have never heard mentioned at my clinic.

Christmas is going to be difficult to get through as I'm spending it with my family, including my adorable little niece. It's going to be so tough after yesterday's result, and all the events of this year, but also knowing I should have a 5 month old little girl there too.

Any advise would be hugely appreciated.

Katie

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[kt_11]

Not sure I have much advice to be honest but just wanted to say sorry for your losses and your recent BFN. Must be difficult at any time but particularly at this time of year. Hope someone who has been through this can help a bit more.

I think from seeing posts from others in similar situations that Diane Arnold has a list of questions that she can email to you for your next consultation. Don’t know how to tag people on here but I’m sure you can search for her on here and ask 😊 xx

[hannahding]

I am extremely sorry to hear about your loss. This must have been extremely difficult for you. However, stay positive and strong! I am sure things will get better. Ask your doctor for the reason as to why this happened. They should have a proper explanation for this. If your embryos were fine what was the reason. Also, if you are second guessing your clinic do ask for a second opinion.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi KTL. I won't go over all your losses, as it will just be painful for you, but nevertheless it was sad t hear, and I do hope you have had ongoing support. However, I do have a couple of lists of questions I can email you in confidence if you would like them. You need to email me at [e-mail] and I will get them to you. I finish early today, so if you can do that soonest, With regards to support (that I feel you need) with your pregnancies, I would mention the use of Clexane (heparin) a blood thinner to ensure good blood flow to your womb and its' lining. Sometimes a low dose steroid (prednisolone) is sometimes prescribed to boost your immune system. Just some thoughts. Thinking of you. Diane

[KTL80]

Thank you all so much. I do take comfort from this forum. It's the only place I really feel that people know what we are all going through and understand just how tough the IVF journey can be.

Diane, I've sent you a quick email; I'd be really grateful for the questions.

Many thanks

Katie

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