Egg Donor

[Morolake]

Hi Everyone.

I am a newbie here. I’m 41 and my partner is 49

I have just been told that ive only got the option of an egg donor to have a baby due to POF(premature ovarian failure). As if that was not devastating enough, I was told that the waiting list for my ethnicity is exceptionally long as I belong to the black minority race group in the U.K.

Is there anyone that is willing to help my partner and I to fulfill the utmost desire of carrying a baby ? Or any advice how I can go about finding a donor

Thanks for reading this

[genten]

Hi and welcome 🤗

I don't have personal experience of donor eggs but there are some ladies here who should be able to help.

I hope get some answers here and that the wait isn't too long.

Good luck. Xxx

[Morolake in reply to genten]

Thanks for your response. I hope so myself. It’s been very devastating and I just feel all alone

[genten in reply to Morolake]

Aww bless you. I think we all feel like here unfortunately but at least we have each other.

You can also message Diane Arnold, she is the site admin here and will be able to point you in the right direction. Xx

[Hidden]

Hello and welcome! I too have pov, am 41 and been ttc for longer than I can count. I am currently going through donor egg ivf.

The rules within the UK and outwith are different. This means it can take longer to find a donor. The differences include the fact that the baby has a right to know who the donor was when they reach the age of 18, and there are limits on the payments that they can receive - limited to travel expenses.

Outwith the UK but still within Europe there are more donors as they are guaranteed anonymity and get some fee - still nothing like US.

The hfea website can show you stats and hopefully when you speak with the clinics they can advise on where you might have quicker matches for your type. When I say type - they usually try to match the donor by skin tone, height, body shape, eye and hair colour. Hopefully someone on here can give you specifics about clinics that will be great for you, if not each should offer a free initial consultation.

Dm me if you like.

Good luck xx

[sandra81]

if you re self funded try overseas clinics such as in South Africa Cape Town you can find black donors

[Morolake in reply to sandra81]

Thanks for your response. Xx

[Karen82]

Hi! I’m so sorry to hear this I’m using a clinic in Spain for embryo adoption - donor egg AND sperm. There are more eggs available abroad because the child won’t ever have the right to know their biological parent. It’s definitely worth looking in Spain. I know I can’t mention the clinic name here so feel free to PM me for the details. Good luck, Kx

[Morolake in reply to Karen82]

Thanks hun. I will

[pinklad]

Hello Morolake, welcome onboard, it may take time for you to do it here since you said your African that is the best place to do it. I can not say much but email me I will be able to give you more information and the price is low because of currency.

[Morolake in reply to pinklad]

Thank you for your response Pinklad. I will send you a pm. xx

[pinklad in reply to Morolake]

Hi Morolake, you did not send it as you said, have you find one yet? if not you have think what best since you are African you can go back home and do it, they will work on what to want, secondly it will cost you less. I can not give name here for you. then if you want to do it in Europe they will find you African American as they said. I don't know part of Africa you are from if you let me know then I will know if is my place or you can go there.

[pinklad]

ok

[Starryeyes1984]

Hi Morolake, sorry that you and your partner are going through this but once you’ve decided to move forwards things can move quickly if you are self funded and you don’t need to go very far. I have contacted a number of clinics in Spain and Cyprus and they all have black egg donors readily available including from West Africa. If you want to do it in the U.K. this service called Manor House said they could import eggs but you have a clinic that will do egg imports. My NHS clinic wouldn’t so it was a dead end. If you are relying on your NHS funding then at least try to get it transferred to London as the wait times for ethnic minority egg donors are shorter than in other parts of the country. Equally you can try to find your own egg donor - it is difficult but there are kind people out there who would be willing to help. You just have to find them! I am in the same boat as you but I’ve known about my options for about 7 months and after the initial period of total heartbreak we set about doing a lot of research to understand our options. I did speak to lots of clinics in UK and abroad and I also explored clinics in Nigeria. If you’d like any more info please feel free to PM me.

[Morolake in reply to Starryeyes1984]

Thank you so much for your response. It gives me hope that I can find a donor egg somewhere. I’ve just sent you a message. Xx