Third round of IVF-will it ever work??!!

[Lcjames83]

Hi all-I am currently in my 2ww of my 3rd round of IVF. This time we had 2 frozen blastocysts implanted. Before the IVF we also had 3 rounds of IUI. No positive tests ever! Feeling really deflated and negative and wondering if it will ever work out? I have mild to moderate endometriosis and don’t ovulate regularly. My partner had borderline morphology on a couple of semen samples but normal on others so we had ICSI. We both just feel so fed up and can’t imagine it working as it has failed so many times and we’ve been trying for 3.5 years. Has anyone had multiple failed attempts then gone onto succeed? If so what if anything made the difference for you or was it just a numbers game? Trying to keep a glimmer of positivity! Thanks for any advice!

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Hi

I am on my 6th round!! 3 with my own eggs which gave limited eggs, high fertilisation and never a bfp. I then went onto donor eggs. I had a bfn, then a bfp which ended in anembryonic, and now on bfp again.

The difference mainly for me when achieving bfp is donor eggs and also cutting out stress, learning how to relax and using positive visualisations. I also have acupuncture and kineseology.

I really hope you find your way to your bfp soon. Keep visualising your little beans implanting and listen to the post ivf transfer mindfulness apps xx

[Lcjames83 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks-I’m trying to keep calm and positive but finding it hard. I do have some ivf hypnosis stuff I can listen to so I’ll try to do that regularly. Congrats on your bfp!

[Hidden in reply to Lcjames83]

Thank you. Still early days as in next 2ww. But yay for now.

For you just try (calmly ha ha) to focus on the mindfulness and visualisations in a positive way. Cling to that. Xxx

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi sorry to chime in here - Camillage would you mind sharing which post transfer mindfulness apps that you use? I would also be interested in this...

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

I tended to just Google (mostly in middle of the night) he he

youtu.be/Df70kwOp2Gw(Not working as expected?)

youtu.be/hYnzpytxb28(Not working as expected?)

All free stuff 🤣

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Brilliant - thank you!

[Lcjames83 in reply to Hidden]

Just to say thanks again as I have found the first you tube link so helpful 💗

[Hidden in reply to Lcjames83]

Brilliant. And how is everything going? Xx

[Lcjames83 in reply to Hidden]

I had a positive test! But now have the next 3 week wait until scan with my clinic! It’s just as bad as the usual 2ww! First time I’ve ever had any kind of positive test so am so worried it is not going to work out! I’m now listening to that lady’s first trimester recording!

[Hidden in reply to Lcjames83]

Yay that's brilliant. Congratulations xxx

[Lcjames83 in reply to Hidden]

I may have spoken too soon-I’m just over 5 wks and have just found a small amount of dark blood 😫

[Hidden in reply to Lcjames83]

Small amount? It could be implantation discharge. Please try not to worry. Give the clinic a call and they should be able to reassure and provide advice. Xx

[SConnor]

So sorry to hear it's being such a painful journey for you. I also have endo but had surgery prior to IVF, today I am 6 weeks pregnant. It can work, it can work with endo too! Don't give up!

Have you had endo surgery before? In my case they removed some endometriomas from my left ovary and endo adhesions here and there, that can help too.

As I had had a MC before, I had an endometrium scratch before transfer - not a pleasant thing but it seems to help sometimes - and they used embryo glue in the transfer. Have you tried any of this?

Same as Camillage, I've tried to be as relaxed as possible specially in the 2ww - not easy as I am a particularly nervous person. Try to go for long walks on your favorite music.

Good luck XX

[Lcjames83 in reply to SConnor]

Thanks for your reply. My gynaecologist said as my endo was only mild to moderate and not blocking tubes or on ovaries that my best bet was cracking in with IVF first. I do feel I’ll need a laparoscopy later to treat the deposits I do have as they cause me a lot of pain. I also had a scratch which was pretty unpleasant, before my second round of ivf. I think a large study has now shown no benefit do we have not repeated it. Our clinic already uses embryo glue in their transfer mediums. I think you’re right about really focusing on the relaxation stuff though so thanks

[Tugsgirl]

Hey. I’m beginning to feel where you’re at too. My next fet will be my 6th transfer. We’ve been ttc 4 years in the spring, two of those doing ivf. From somewhere though I manage to hold onto a little hope, at least a while longer. I try not to think of the time when all hope is lost. You are not alone xx

[Hidden in reply to Tugsgirl]

Hope is not lost. You will get there. This is the time everyone! Xxx

[Tugsgirl in reply to Hidden]

That would be so nice ☺️ xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Mine worked third time. Please try to keep the faith. There’s a reason the NICE guidelines suggest the NHS should fund three tried xx

[Sarahlou01]

Don’t lose hope. I am currently 27 weeks pregnant after 10 years of trying for a baby and 8 years of fertility treatment including 6 months of Clomid followed by 7 years of ivf, 2 failed embryo transfers, 2 cases of OHSS (one which was severe and left me hospitalised), 4 surgeries for stage 4 endometriosis which extends right up to my diaphragm and removal of a recurrent endometrioma. My husband was keen for us to stop and look into adoption when we finally had a successful frozen blastocyst transfer in May so miracles can happen!! I have absolutely everything crossed for you! Sending lots of love xxx

[Scarlett13]

I’m about to start my 3rd round. I’ve had 4 embryo transfers so far from the first two rounds, all single transfers. They’ve been really good embryos. I don’t know why it’s not worked or when it will, or if it ever will. Now it’s getting expensive too and I’m now 38. I wish you all the luck in the world. Let’s hope we are 3rd the lucky! I’ve had the scratch twice and will have it again. This time they will use the embryoscope. I can’t afford their suggestion of PGS. I had mild endo ablated. I have blocked tubes. X