Hi Missionofendo, sorry to hear your first ivf didn't work.
I am the same age as you and had my first failed ivf last December. I think the first round is always a trial and error. You should try for a second round to give yourself another chance. I did my second egg collection in Feb and am waiting for the clinic to reopen and start my FET. Best of luck! X
No worries! Thanks for your nice message. I am waiting for the clinic to reopen. Have you decided whether you would go for a second round? Best of luck. X
All the feedback and supportive messages have given me the help to decide I’ll go for it.
Thank you so much it’s been such a great platform for us to discuss our situations.
We aren’t alone !
Keep going best of luck x
Hi there, sorry the first round did t work, as Dreambaby says I often think of round one as a trial and error round - the fact you got to blasto is fantastic news - I don’t know what you mean about the placenta being grade C never heard that before.. but anyway if it’s any help I am 43 and so far have had four rounds.. the first failed, the second was successful but I sadly had a mmc at 9 1/2 weeks, my third was a chemical and my fourth failed. I am waiting to start my fifth round once lockdown is over. My consultant has said whilst ivf increases my chances over natural it’s worth doing as long as it’s financially and health viable, we are reaching that tipping point now but I think a decent blasto on round one suggests you have a good chance of things working for you on future round so I wouldn’t (personally) give up quite yet.
Hi - it is very individual as we all vary so much in hormone levels/ tests/ protocol/ clinics and perhaps even luck etc - i did a 3 cycle package at 42/43 in autumn / winter with Donor sperm as single. I changed clinic in January and made choice to have DD IVF which was cancelled with the lock down but I hope to resume asap. DD was a huge shift for me to process due to my individual indicators the success rates were very low. However for others the story is very different and I am glad that I had a number of treatments and tried my best and gave it my all. I am sure you will make the right decisons for you based on all the different factors and this is just one of many different experiences of IVF at this age, bestest luck x
Thank you for your feedback and your so right everyone is on their own journey with differing results I’m so new to this so anything is helpful even hearing it’s up to me etc.
I’m also single and turn 43 soon so will have to buy new sperm for the next go.
Did you use london clinics?
Wishing you the best for lockdown and for your journey
Hi - it was not in London, it was in the south west ...... and i changed clinic after 3 cycles of IVF to a clinic that did not have a wait list for DD IVF but i still had 2 viles of donor sperm left which i got moved to the new clinic. i started that in March, then cancelled because of covid . I also found the DCN and other podcasts / videos/ reading helpful in processing things. . In IVF I had 1/ cancelled 2/ no egg at egg retreival 3/ 2 embryos transferred.
Yes it is very individual, but heck I do think we are warriers, single or not , Clovid shut down on top of that, it is a day at a time ..all i can do atm, yes bestest luck too x
I personally think it’s definitely worth trying again!
I myself will be trying again for my 2nd round of IVF as soon as my clinic opens. They always say first round is never guaranteed but it’s always a trial to see how your body responds. Don’t lose hope.
Hey thanks for your reply and feedback its good to hear positive thinking I guess you get abit caught in the what now stage. I looked into adoption but that seems close to impossible. I think I will try again maybe change clinics dont know,
Thanks Again -so many of us having to put it on hold during this epidemic.
Hello Missionofendo, I failed my first IVF in Nov and went for my second one in Feb. Unfortunately both failed but better egg collection second time round as the doctor adjusted my dosage based on a daily blood test. I am 41 years old and with less than 10% success rate, I think the more times you do it the more likely you are to succeed. My only advice is do give yourself at least 2 months before the next try in order to get your menstruation cycle normal again as mine went to a 31 day cycle, when I am normally a 28 day cycle. Not that it is relevant, but I read Céline Dion did 5 rounds of IVF before she got her twins and I draw inspiration from that. Good luck and all the best...
Hi, I would absolutely say yes! I am 40, about to have 2 grade C embryos put back in for the first time. I know the quality isn’t as high as I’d hoped but I would certainly go through IVF again if I had any embryos to freeze, if they don’t stand a good chance the clinic won’t freeze them and grade B is certainly great!
If you’re feeling emotionally strong and capable absolutely go for it xx
Thank you so much for your feedback until you read other people’s results you feel quiet isolated. I really appreciate your feedback and words of encouragement
Thank you and best of luck with your journey esp the 2 embryos 🙏xx
Yes go for cycle 2! As the other ladies have said, your first cycle is a practice so they figure out how your body reacts to the stims and whether your protocol needs adjusting. When I started my ivf journey back in 2016, on average it took 3 cycles before conceiving, is what all the info said (i have no idea what this is now). I said to myself I would do 3 cycles (when I was naive and didn't have a clue) and that was if I had to fund all 3 cycles privately. I was lucky enough to be eligible for 2 on the nhs and I've done one private cycle so to me I still have 2 cycles before I said I would give up (i don't know how I will feel if I get to that!). I've seen ladies 40+ in this forum fall pregnant and so have seen it done xx
I am sorry to hear of your relationship breakdown and the timing must have been horrendous for you. You are so brave to do this on your own! I do think if it wasn't for my husband and his feeling of it being too much, I probably would have done another couple of cycles by now. Going into and during each cycle, I've felt strong mentally and determined. When the latest cycle hasn't worked, I like to have a plan going forward and get going with it. I even did every thing apart from egg collection on my own on each of my cycles as my OH worked away. I didn't feel like I needed him at appts or scans and I certainly didn't want him doing injections. I was actually happy to be on my own, it was easier. My OH is always the one dragging his heels because he's not ready emotionally from when we've got bfn. Any way what I'm trying to say is, you can do this. If it's your dream to have a child, go for it. It's your choice and there is no one to hold you back or to take into account when making your decision. Keep us updated with your journey. There is always someone on here to chat to xx
Thanks for reply I hear you and totally get what your saying it’s a path we have to take and feel strong about so self care is essential.
I had a massive endometriosis operation the year before so the IVF Via Nhs was a massive focus for me. We split up 2 weeks before the appointment and it gave me no time to plan anything else as you can’t use donor on NHS.
On a positive note, I’ve made it through this and I think we all must feel managing the injections makes you feel strong and it felt like a real achievement making it through it all.
Thanks so much for your understanding and sharing I can’t tell you how much it’s helped me 🙏
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