Miscarriage :(

[Isla66]

I hope everyone is enjoying good health. I want to share a disaster of my life. Miscarriages are too difficult to overcome. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I am so depressed to try again. I feel that my next pregnancy can also result in the same. Doctors don't know the reason for my miscarriage. I am feeling so fearful and depressed right now. I am so nervous and in need of good suggestions. Please advise me how to come out of all this.

[Hidden]

First of all you need to have some counselling. And not only for you as an individual but also your other half. When it has just happened you will find yourself in a very dark place. I am so sorry to read this.

It will get better and you will have the strength to try again.

If you don't mind me asking - where did you get to in the pregnancy?

Sending you huge hugs xxxx

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By the way, the "norm" is not to do any further testing until you have had 3 miscarriages which I think is ridiculous. It could be down to bad luck, but that does not help. You definitely want to make sure next time everything works as it should xx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

Miscarriages of a first pregnancy are surprisingly common. Second miscarriages are much much less common and it is very unlikely you will miscarry again. But you will know when you are ready to start trying for another pregnancy. Give yourself time and be kind to yourself x

[LanaTerene]

Hey Isla. I'm so, so sorry to hear about your loss. I can relate. I've had two MCs, too. It's the worst time in one's life. My advice would be to stop thinking. I know it's easier said than done, but it really is the best solution. Lots of love, I hope you recover, ASAP.

[ChrisChros]

I am really sorry to hear about your loss. It is awful and I know how it feels. I also had a miscarriage after my first pregnancy. Doctor’s usually don’t know the reason but mostly they assume it is because of the chromosomes. You didn’t do anything wrong. I did counseling afterwards and it really helped. I mostly struggled because some other friends had a successful pregnancy and I felt so useless. When you are ready, you should give it another try. My doctor said with only one miscarriage this doesn’t increase the chances of another miscarriage. We tried again and the next pregnancy went well and now I have a beautiful daughter, almost 5. It is worth it to try again. Xxx

[Olivia_1990]

It is really heartbreaking to see you this way, love. Please stay strong. It is just a way of life testing us by throwing at us such terrible incidents but we must stay strong. Everything will fall into place once again and you will have a baby too. Just stay positive and keep trying. You must not blame yourself for what was supposed to happen, happened. Take great care of yourself. Lots of love and best wishes to you xx