work feels overwhelming :-(

[jacki81]

I don' know if it's something to do with the stress of waiting for and having treatment, (we've just done our second IUI), the side effects of the progesterone pessaries or just something else in general, but I cannot for the life of me focus on my job! Does anyone else feel utter panic and frustration at having to do day to day things that were completely possible (and even enjoyable!) before embarking on this journey?

Luckily my boss is super supportive and I've been able to work from home more. But opening my emails still makes me want to cry!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Jacki81. It is important to tell yourself that the feelings you are experiencing are quite normal. It’s also important that you perhaps choose how and with who you spend your time at the moment in order to minimise any distress and to look after yourself. Most people experiencing infertility do so as a couple and often feel very isolated, so apart from each other, it would be good to confide in one of your best friends or a family member. The ladies here will support you loads, they're a good lot and will be here for you. Thinking of you. Diane

[jacki81 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks so much Diane for your reply and support. It's good to know there are others on the board in the same boat! I was recommended to come here by my acupuncturist and it's lovely to have somewhere to pop in and chat to so many inspirational and understanding women :0)

[Franco81]

Hi Jacki

I just wanted to reassure you that you are definitely not alone in feeling this way. Infertility can be very consuming and I’ve found it seems to come in random phases and hits me when I’m least expecting it! Just when I think I’m coping and managing life ok I suddenly feel overwhelmed and can get forgetful and unable to focus on anything.

I’d say if you can, when you feel that way to just give yourself some time to process and acknowledge the feelings (which are absolutely normal and possibly a mixture of hormones, treatment and just the stress of it all) and wait until you do feel up to doing the everyday things.

Good luck and lots of strength, you will get through this xx

[jacki81 in reply to Franco81]

Thanks Franco, I totally understand this! The weekend was easy, lovely and relaxing, but the first sign of something stressful and I want to run away! I'm feeling much more positive today thank goodness.

Thank you for your advice and support, you are totally right! I've been doing a lot of Yoga Nidra, I am finding this helps a lot

Best of luck to you too xx

[Tati14680]

I am in my 2ww and as I had a 2 grade2 embies transferred in day 2, this week is the window period for them to implant. I couldn't face the idea of going to work. I am a mw and my job is physically and mentally demanding. I did not want to feel that I was slimming my chances and I was not feeling able to focus. So I got the dr to sign me off. It is my life and my babies so me first.

[jacki81 in reply to Tati14680]

I think that is totally understandable! It must be so hard to be a mw when you are going through this. I am now in implantation week too so I'm trying to remain as calm as possible! I wish you the best of luck with your embies

[Tati14680 in reply to jacki81]

As you are in implantation, how are u feeling? I was ok till yesterday but today I feel like my period is about to start but it is too early anyway. And I am a bit panicky. Trying to read it as a good sign but I am not very good at this game... good luck to you too

[jacki81 in reply to Tati14680]

I’m trying not to think about it, I haven’t really felt any different but I am using the joyful progesterone pessaries, so I have decided to put any odd symptoms down to them! I’m only 7dpiui though so very early. Fingers crossed it’s not your period and something exciting is going on in there! x

[jacki81]

Thanks Jenny.. I’m so addicted to yoga already! You’re right it definitely helps. I’ve recently discovered Yoga Nidra and that is amazing! I think your doc is right about the change in environment. I’ve managed to get 3 days a week working at home so this afternoon I took myself to a cafe to work on my laptop as a treat. Just being out of the office environment helps wonders it seems!