Does anyone else find they want to kill their DH? We’re booked in for embryo transfer tomorrow, he’s the most annoying man in the world - has turned into a useless waste of space. Granted, I’m not in the best head space but he’s supposed to be being useful he turns into a total tw@t 😡
Just needed to rant!
Awwww you are both probably stressed. If this is first time round it’s the worst. Try and just accept you are both a bit out of your comfort zone. Fingers crossed all goes well. Try and relax XX
I honestly don’t realise what goes through women’s minds and how hard it is. I swear I could have punched my son in law on their first round. He was useless to say the least. The cycles after that he was much better and understood what the procedures entailed for the lady xx
I’ve made him endure the whole process, from seeing what the first scan entailed, right through. He sympathises with that, he just can’t manage my moods. I don’t get on with hormones, came off the pill coz of them, he knew that, and is still a useless ****er (at times!)
Can whole heartedly tell you that this was me on my first round. These days I want to kill him because he’s checking I’m ok every two mins! Gilly is right, they’ve no idea... it’s all new and you’re also a raging hormonal machine! You’d think he’d value his life more. I promise you’ll look back and laugh. Try going out for tea or something nice tonight xx
I promise you that you are not the only one. I find that it helps to ignore them and they sometimes come back to their senses (sometimes they don't). Maybe that's how they deal with the process. I remember on several occasions wishing I can know what goes on in my DH's head so I can 'fix' it....lol
I am sure if they are asked, they will have a lot to say about us too since we are stressed and hormonal 
Try to relax, it will all turn out just fine xxx
My OH head was in the clouds 1st round. But by egg collection and transfer he finally got what an ordeal it was for me.
He just didn't get it until we went through it.
Next round still won't be a breeze, but he gets it now.
Best of Luck!
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Thanks guys. Glad to hear it’s not just mine!
I know I’m a nightmare when I’m hormonal. The funny thing was, he was more keen on doing this than I was (due to my hormone reaction) and he thought I’d just be doing one injection every couple of days 🤣
He’s away with work for the next 3 nights which has come at just the right time I think. A few days to just breathe!
I was about to post and say that hubbie working away for most of round three was probably what saved us killing each other... it’s hard for them to annoy you from a different city! 😂 if it helps, I haven’t found pregnancy hormones have turned me into a witch whereas the ivf ones did!
They are just wired differently! Enjoy your few nights break have a couple of treats and hopefully you wl be glad to see him return! It's so difficult to go through but will be worth it all if you get your baby at the end x
Just thought I'd give you the husbands point of view. It's very hard for us to express emotions at the best of times. When we had our first round, I went into man cave mode slightly, whats going in your head is this- You're not a real man because you can't get your wife pregnant, you have no idea what's going on in your head and because of that we tend to retreat into ourselves.
I'm no way defending how we act, just explaining why we are such pillocks!!
I found it was only after our first round was negative that we really talked, our first round was on the nhs, our local authority only gives you one go. After that we had to go private, but at least the clinic we used provided a free couple of sessions of counselling and it really helped us, although we were both very reluctant to go.
Communicate is the key, let him know, you'd be surprised how much he's dying to open up with you. IVF is not the subject to chat about with your mates in the pub or playing or watching sport or whatever.
Its a hell of a time going through IVF, best of luck to you both, once you get a child, all these horrible times will be forgotten...
I really wish there were more OH’s on these forums!! Don’t know if they quietly read a lot but don’t post or if they really are not here. Would be amazing to understand more about the other half when we’re all struggling. Thanks for contributing!!
What happened in your case? Did you get your positive result? If you don't mind me asking.....
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My wife is 18 weeks!! After years of trying 'naturally' we discovered that I was the problem, low sperm count, due to an accident I had with my 'jewel's ' when I was a kid. It never occurred to me that it might have effected production. I was making good sperm, but in low numbers. We did multiple rounds of ICSI, ( my wife was in perfect health, but she was 37 when we started on IVF) After 4 years of many cycles, she was done, and ready to try a donor. I think because we had even tried with donor sperm at that point, still getting negative result. We had spent a lot of cash and heartache and we didn't care about using our own eggs/sperm.
So after failing with donor sperm, we used a donor egg and we were very lucky(so far) in that it worked!
Praying the little one is a healthy birth, my wife is overjoyed as am I. We hope to try again next year, we always wanted 2 kids.
I see in this thread you're doing another round, I'm not sure what your situation is, but best wishes for this one, you'll get there, I have no doubt, just don't give up. xx
Great news and congratualtions to you both!!!
The stuggle was worth it in the end.
We are still positive - 1 down....not sure how many more to go! 
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Hi Olivia80. I think it's all down to most of them having a similar inherited gene!! I will be watching the news headlines!! It's a good job we love them really. Diane xx
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