menstrual emotions

[Emmanev1]

so, i've previously posted that we had a failed reverse vasectomy back in October last year. Every month i know my period is coming and im well prepared. But when it comes i just cant control my emotions on how its a constant reminder of what cant have and im very teary. i'm also lashing out and feeling very angry. my partner has just buried is head in the sand on all this and i feel very alone and not sure how to deal with it? has anyone experienced or got any advice on this???

[Purpledazzle27]

I’m sorry you are going through that. My ex had a reversal that failed and would not talk about the next step. My advice would be to tell him how you feel and that you want to take next step. You could have ivf, they can take sperm from the source although I think success rates can be slightly lower but if it’s somrthing you can’t stop thinking about then it’s worth looking into. All the best xxx

[Emmanev1 in reply to Purpledazzle27]

we have spoken about the next step in principle but i think the cost is an issue (not to me). every time we speak about the future and things we need to do he never brings it up any further. I have told him how i feel on numerous occasions but its got to point now where i cant continue like this. unless i bring the subject up he brushes i off. I've looked at every option but i seem more enthusiastic than my partner does its just so frustrating xx what did you decide upon in the end? xx

[Purpledazzle27 in reply to Emmanev1]

This may not help but I wasted 6 years with him because we got on really well and life was easy but he wouldn’t talk about the future and we needed up splitting up. I met someone else and now 5 years later me and my now husband have been through ivf and I’m currently 33w2d pregnant. I’m 37 so we were absolutely amazed it worked first time. I have only one tube which is is blocked so always knew I would have to have ivf. One of the early conversations I had with my husband was how I wanted children but that I may need ivf and what did he want in relation to trying and he wanted a child so we were on the same page. Hope your partner is different than my ex and will agree to take next step. Xxx

[Emmanev1 in reply to Purpledazzle27]

no that's really help helped thank you. corny to say but it just shows that everything happens for a reason even if you may not think it at the time. that's brilliant and it im really happy it has all worked out for you in the end. It seems to make the heartache all worthwhile. good luck with the little one when he/she arrives and thank you for sharing your experience. ive put all my cards on the table and said that he has to be honest about what he wants as this is my life too and we seem to have made progress since yesterday so fingers crossed xx

[Purpledazzle27 in reply to Emmanev1]

I’m really glad to hear you’re making progress. Keep us posted. All the best xx