The title says it all. My Pgs normal embryo failed amd im sad and depressed. At the moment I feel I cant face life and im not in a position to talk to anyone. I cry all day and my husband today said he doesnt want to see me like this anymore. I cant contain my saddness and don't know how to come out from this dull place i am in.
After my negative outcome of my FET the clinic have emailed me with their answers.
They said they have a 77%sucess rate for FET. So I fall in the other minority. They also said its very rare for a FET implanted in line with ERA to fail. They also said they have no answers why it failed and I have to be patient and try again.
From 2 cycles we only had 2 blastocysts out of 24 eggs collected. All odds are against us. Would an other egg collection possibly yield a better outcome?
This forum has been supportive to me. I just wish i could get my happy smile back but I cant. I feel deep down that the doctors will never find whats wrong with us and my dream of becoming a mum will never be 💔
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out of 8 donor cycle blastocyts only two were viable blastocyts with 4aa and 3ab which I used this time for transfer and bfn😔.
It's a rough journey dear.
I don't know what to say ...but I know one thing god rules death and birth of living being...it's under his power to create or destroy anything...so I feel god needs psychology counselling for making us barren inspite of our hard work....,,,,so it's not fair what God is doing......
I have seen some ladies aborting children or throwing babies in garbage due to whatever reason and God makes them pregnant again n again so easily without any hard work.
But look at us ....we are all so ready to love and nourish our children and God is making us barren.
So I guess whatever you want you won't get but what you don't want you get.
I am so sorry Lorita, I know how you feel. Its a very emotional time and there is nothing that anyone could say to make you feel better...
I had two missed miscarriage and we are doing IVF for the first time... in this cycle we have 8 eggs and 6 embryos but unfortunately only one made it to blastocyst stage... I am healthy and Ive been pregnant before but sometimes there is no explanation.
I think give yourself some time and try again. you never know... I know how hard it is to go through it again, but at the end of the day we want to be mother and we try our best.
Try to focus on your marriage and stay in touch with your friends and family.
Just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I'd say most if not all of us have felt this way along our journey. I don't have the magic answers I'm afraid.. But it helps me on my down days to know that their are others here who understand xo
The whole BFN business is painful, isn't it? Most of the time I'm fine, but at night I just feel like I'm made of wax and the wax is warm and just collapsing in on itself. I have so much good in my life, but at night it sometimes feels like that's it, my life is over. That sounds incredibly melodramatic, but hey.
I don't know where they got their 77% for frozen egg transfer from, I mean the success rate would obviously depend on the quality of the embryos. You could have 25 frozen embryos put back but if they're not viable the fact that they've been frozen isn't going to make them any more viable. I've heard that donor eggs are 60% success rate (I don't understand this either..I mean if those eggs were put back in the donor they'd no longer be donor eggs so presumably their success rate would go down to 30% or whatever the normal success rate is) so how did your frozen emryos get such a high expected success rate?
My point here is that IVF places can be great - they give us all hope and for the lucky few they give us babies. But they also need to make money. IVF clinics make their money off hope. After each failed cycle we hope against hope that the next one will be successful, and the more we hope the more money the IVF clinics make. So I think you always have to be a bit careful with the stats they give you. I don't understand stats, but my husband does and he was getting so irate at all the stats we were given. He was adamant that the stats we were given couldn't possibly be correct and they were misrepresenting them to get customers.
So if your clinic is saying that it's a 77% success rate, maybe you should consider going to another clinic and seeing what they say. 77% success rate just sounds unfeasibly high....it could be that they're a dodgy clinic and they're trying to make you think the IVF failure is your fault when in fact it's theirs.
I’m so sorry that you are feeling so bad right now. But I also think that these feelings are understandable based on your recent BFN. I imagine it was impossible not to be really hopeful as everything looked so promising so the disappointment is bound to feel crushing. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself as to when you “should” be feeling happy again. In time you will get there but make sure you give yourself time to process it all. I can relate to your comments as I’ve been struggling to pick myself up after our latest bfn (our 5th transfer). So just wanted you to know you are not alone. Sending big hugs xxx
Hello dear, I was sad upon reading your experience on fertility. I will pray for your fast recovery and I hope that your dream to become a mum will come true.
M sorry lorita ...bt don't be depressed...my clinic also said that they were expecting v gud results....the same case like me was transferred somedays before me...nd her case was successful with twins...i m also depressed bt trying to keep me bzi onn job .... trusting in ALLAH for miracle...you should also move on nd keep yourself bzi nd think positive...bt i will take next chance after sometime...
It’s a difficult place and sometimes no matter what anyone’s says or does it does not help because you have to overcome it and accept that it will be when the time is right I cried all the time I still get upset but there is light at the end of the tunnel jus stay strong x
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Feeling very low and tearful today
Pregnant following FET but had bleeding any success stories?
pcos 26 yo bfn - fet 1 
BFN 😢
feeling demoralised!
