Seriously frustrated and upset. Sorry, bad day. Crap clinic

[Music1]

So, we saw our clinic back in November and I was advised to go on the pill non stop, until we phoned end of Jan to book our 'scratch' to start ivf/ fet.

My oh called the clinic yesterday and mentioned that I had been on the pill 24/7 without a break since our apt, only the last few weeks I had experienced some 'breakthrough bleeding' or spotting which was dark brown. The clinic simply replied this wasn't possible and insisted on wanting to know the date of my next period, and refused to book anything. Also, they said we should actually be on 2 different drugs now, but it turns out they possibly forgot to let us know, or send the prescription through the post. How do I know when my next period is, when I haven't had 1 in ??? due to being on the pill. I'm just so frustrated. It's like you're just a number and they don't know/ remember anything about you, what happened with your previous failed attempts or anything. We just waste money on pointless consultations where we both learn nothing, and scans to tell me what I already know. Grrr

My oh, told me to go back to the GP and request more microgynon as it may be some time before they can do anything again.

Wasted maybe 7 years of my life and still nothing. Sob, turned down endless jobs, commitments, quit a wonderful career to give my body a break so I could get pregnant and now I feel like I'm stuck on a pointless conveyor belt going nowhere.

Sorry.... bad day, lack of sleep and any positivity I had in Jan is fading fast. All I seem to be doing is buying baby gifts for friends and colleagues younger than myself, and pressies for other people's children. It's heartbreaking.

[Squeak2]

Love and hugs to you, this journey is cruel and hard and some days are worse than others. Hopefully tomorrow might be a better day! 💕 xx

[Music1 in reply to Squeak2]

Thank you xx

[Aleelilook]

Oh Christ no wonder you’re feeling crap, your clinic sound terrible. Is there anyway you can change clinic? May I ask why they asked you to go on the pill? Sending positive vibes sweets xxxx

[Music1 in reply to Aleelilook]

I'm beginning to think my clinic aren't great - except at collecting payments. We have 2 FE there at the moment and as it's my last attempt I'm not sure my oh would want to change clinic this time. I suggested/ asked if I could go on the pill as I have stage 4 Endometriosis and have a great deal of pain every month - before and during the pill. I suspect that's due to cysts and sometimes they rupture and I get more pain. I was due to have a FET back last June but the clinic screwed up and it was cancelled. I was having painful periods every month whilst I was waiting for my TSH level to go down. I just wanted to stop my period in between waiting for dates etc. Thanks for your positive vibes and thoughts. I was at a real low point. xx

[7AVA]

This is awful for you Music1 - is it worth you phoning your clinic yourself to clarify exactly what they are expecting you to do? If they have not properly informed you of your protocol then I would consider making a formal complaint and then perhaps transferring clinics. Wishing you the best of luck with your treatment once it gets going. Xx

[Music1 in reply to 7AVA]

Thanks 7AVA, I was having a really low day after hearing that info. I will ask my oh to call the clinic to clarify and maybe ask to speak with someone else. I would/ should call them myself, but I get so frustrated and angry sometimes when I just get treated as if they don't know me etc. Many thanks xx

[7AVA in reply to Music1]

Good luck xxx

[Hidden]

I’m really sorry you’re going through this- like this situation isn’t difficult enough. I’d look into changing clinics- you don’t need extra stress right now. I also agree with your hubby definitely go back to your GP and I would get some advice from him/her. The GP might give your clinic a kick up the bum 😊 sounds like they need one! Also your clinic are so wrong over breakthrough bleeding- I had 2 full on periods on the pill in a month. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sending lots of love your way and I hope your GP can help xoxo

[Phris]

Thinking about you and sending lots of love and hugs.. hang in there xx

[Music1 in reply to Phris]

Thanks for your kind words Phris. Really appreciate it. Have been having a really low time/ meltdown xx

[Hidden]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I was on the pill Dec and January so I could get ready to start ivf and I had break through bleeding brown mucussy gads sorry tmi. I had it the whole of January and first few weeks of February. I mentioned it to the clinic who seemed to think it was normal as I hadn't had a break in the pill. I hope you are ok. U can get through this keep your chin up xxx

[Music1]

OMG Clairet1987 that sounds just like my 'bleed'. I've been wearing 'panty liners' for the last 2-3 weeks and almost considered wearing pads. To begin with, I really panicked and posted on here. Saya put my mind at rest saying it was normal but it came as quite a suprise. When the clinic told my oh it wasn't possible, I just thought (*^@£%$@. Thanks for your reassurance and reply. Sorry I haven't replied any sooner. My oh, banned me from going on the computer and reading any posts/ complaining etc as he knew I would get more upset. Pleased to hear that your clinic don't seem to concerned by it. Kind Regards and best wishes for your ivf xxx