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We just did the clear blue test this morning and sadly it was BFN. I’m not really sure how to process this as we used donor eggs to give us a better chance, which were graded 5aa, I had the perfect lining 11mm and my progesterone was 45 day of transfer. I’m not sure what happened or where it all went wrong. I have low AMH and high FSH, do you think that’s why and it’s impacted this?

Does anyone know when we can start again we have 5 frozen embryos left?

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Hello so sorry to hear this, I know how you feel as my first DE cycle didn’t work, very similar grades etc to yours (see my old posts) I was allowed to start my fet on my next period (although I know every clinic is different) And it was successful. Good Luck on your next try, look after yourself xxx

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Thank you Button, I just spoke with my doctor and he suggested that we start next cycle to take advantage of the implantation cuts I had done while they are still there.

So sorry to hear you got BFN, just wanted to send u huge hugs. Xx

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Thank you xx

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JULIETJAM

I am so sorry Smang to hear. Unfortunately this is my first cycle and having egg collection today. But i just wanted to offer my support. Do not give up girl and next time you will have your dream come true. Stay strong and God will help you through this hard time. Hopefully someone on here can give you a few answers that you need. Keep going girl xxx

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Smang in reply toJULIETJAM

Thank you Juliet, just have to pick myself up and try again. Best of luck to you, I wish you a bfp on your cycle x

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Penders

I'm really sorry to hear this. Be kind to yourself today. You should be able to go on your next period as long as you are emotionally ready. Sending you big hugs xxxxx

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Smang in reply toPenders

Thanks Pender, just spoke to my doctor and he suggested we start next cycle as well. x

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El1a80

Sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself and wishing you lots of luck for your next go xxx

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Dunla

Morning, I am really so sorry. I can fully relate to your hopes that using DE would give you a better chance of falling pregnant. That is also my hope. Hoping now that once you feel ready, you can try again with one of your frozen embryos. Sending you love and hugs to help you through this ❤️ xx

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Smang in reply toDunla

Morning Dunla, I really am praying for you and hope it works for you. We are going to just try and enjoy our weekend x

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Dunla in reply toSmang

That is so very kind of you, thank you. I have been thinking about you on and off today. I do hope you are able to enjoy your weekend 😘 xo

So sorry x

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Cinderella5

Im sorry to hear that you've had a BFN, my first DE transfer with 2 great embryos didnt work either and we are working our way to our next transfer but I hold onto hope knowing the Hidden got her BFP second time round as did Fredaflintstone . Clinic seem to depend on when you can go again, I think mine is a period in between but Ive been having other things in between so longer for me. Sending hugs!xx

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Smang in reply toCinderella5

Thanks Cinderella, I just spoke to the doctor and he told us to try on our next cycle to take advantage of the implantation cuts I had. So I am praying that both of our second rounds are a bfp xx

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Cinderella5 in reply toSmang

Ahhh have you had implantation cuts? Ive just had these done with my hysteroscopy. Yes hoping we both get better results next time and great that you dont have to wait too long too!xx

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Smang in reply toCinderella5

Yes I had them done, everything had gone to plan it just didn’t work this time :( But next round is ours!

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Dunla in reply toSmang

Next round has got to be yours 😘

Can I ask, are implantation cuts a much bigger procedure than an Endo scratch? xx

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Smang in reply toDunla

Hi Dunla, I’m not sure I had mine done with my hysteroscopy. So I’m not sure to be honest.

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Dunla in reply toSmang

Ok, thanks. Take good care xx

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Wishfully

Oh I am sorry to hear this 🙁 I hope you are ok xx i think in the vast majority of cases the reason for failure rests with the embryo (despite the grading they give in the lab... they can only tell so much). So maybe this time just wasn’t meant to be. The good news is that you can start again on your very next cycle if you choose to. You have lots of frozen embryos, so I’m sure you’ll find success really, really soon x

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Smang in reply toWishfully

Thank you wishfully, I’m hoping round 2 will be positive. My doctor said I can try next cycle so quite soon x

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E_05

So sorry, BFNs are so cruel. Thinking of you xx

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Aleelilook

So sorry xx

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Kari55

I’m so sorry Smang... I don’t think your AMH and FSH has anything to do with the result. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Even best doctors can’t wait explain why. I know it is a crappy day but let yourself feel sad and disappointed today. Try to go back to your routine in a few days and you will bounce back. I was told that I had to have 3 periods before I could try again but I used my own eggs so not sure how it works with the donor. Sending hugs xxx

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Smang in reply toKari55

Thanks Kari, I’m feeling a little better and oddly enough a bit scared but motivated for the next round. xx

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Tugsgirl

Bfns are hard. I’m sorry to read this. My first was a bfn and everything was perfect, everything. It’s hard to understand why it doesn’t happen in those circumstances. Don’t be too disheartened for long, 5 embies is great!!

My clinic advise three bleeds between treatments but check with yours to be sure and good luck xx

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Smang in reply toTugsgirl

Thanks Tugs, I’m starting to feel a bit better. Just spoke with the doctor and he said he recommends we start next cycle to take advantage of the implantation cuts. Not that they were of any help this time, but you never know I suppose.

I hate those clear blue sticks, just looking at the ‘not pregnant’ made me want to just throw the stick against the wall.

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Sunshine09

So sorry hunny, take plenty you time, before your next cycle keeping everything crossed for you 🤞 xx❤️💋

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Smang in reply toSunshine09

Thank you sunshine xx

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-noodles-

i am so sorry for your loss - it’s so difficult to process, especially when everything seemed to go so well, i’ve been there!

take some time to heal & throw yourself into next round when you’re ready.

we’re all behind you ✨💕✨💕

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Smang in reply to-noodles-

Thanks Noodles, I’m feeling a little better now. I guess no one said this an easy journey and will just make it all the sweeter when it does happen x

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Violet5451

I’m so sorry to hear this and understand you must be feeling gutted. Try to do something nice for yourself today, allow yourself time to cry and have a couple of glasses of wine. You will get there lovely- we all will. Lots of love and hugs xxxx

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Smang in reply toViolet5451

Thank you Violet! I’m just taking it easy today xx

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Poppy16

Devastated for you. Disappointing news:-( I agree with Violet5451-do something nice today to try and lift your spirits a bit. Sending you a hug.xo

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Smang in reply toPoppy16

Thank you Poppy xx

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TTCs

Ah im so sorry to read this!! How devastating! Unfortunately i dont have any advice but wanted to let u know i was thinking of u xx

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oharal

Hi Smang, I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish you the best of luck on your next cycle xx

I’m sorry it was a negative this time. Xx

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Fredaflintstone

So sorry to hear this. If it can give you one hope at least, we had a top grade blastocyst put back in June and it was a bfn even though I had a perfect lining and everything looked like it should have worked. I then had dilation done and we tried again toward the end of Sept. I’m now 21 weeks with twins (we had two good blasts out back this time). The only differences are that I had acupuncture weekly and in day of transfer before and after, listened to mindfulness app (mindful ivf), didn’t have refined sugar and didn’t have Brazil nuts pineapple core and pomegranate juice after transfer. I hope next time is your time. Be nice to yourself in the meantime. Sending hugs xxx

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Smang in reply toFredaflintstone

Thanks Fredaflinstone for sharing your experience with me. I’m so happy to hear that it worked for you, it makes me feel hopeful. I’ve been doing weekly acupuncture since August of last year and I’m going to continue with it as I find it’s also relaxing. My diet is quite good, and I vary rarely have refined sugar or processed foods. But I did have pineapple core the first few days so I might actually just cut that out next time.

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Fredaflintstone in reply toSmang

Hi there - I think the pineapple core is a good thing to have because of the bromelain - it helps with implantation. I’m sure you will get there 💕 xx

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Fredaflintstone

Ps our consultant said it’s a numbers game even with what look like top embryos and that with three goes the chances are really high xxx

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emu2016

I have low AmH and high Fsh and we had a BFP from donor egg. Sadly it didn’t last but don’t give up xx

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Smang in reply toemu2016

Thank you Emu2016, we won’t just have to fight for it. I’m sorry it didn’t last for you, I hope for everyone that we all get our bfp’s and become the amazing mums we are meant to become xxx

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Anna00

So sorry to hear this😔 sending you love and hugs xxx

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BBlucky

Morning Smang I am sad this happened as sounds like you did everything you could and you did everything right so nothing was wrong with what you did. You could treat yourself today to get your mind off this its a fresh start now. Many people get pregnant on next cycle some people feel too much emphasis is put on egg quality. My friend had just 2 - 3 day eggs one was average and one was fair and she has a 12 year old daughter. I wish all the luck in the world and a cyber hug. Xx

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