Stress on the relationship

[MaryAnn123]

Such a stressful and emotional time, we find we have different emotions and end up arguing after our appointments stupidly but more than we would ever. Is this normal? We are only at the start. I then feel worse after

[Hormomalmess]

Hi Hun

This could have been me writing this a few months ago. (And it still happens now sometimes but I blame hormones now)

My hubby and I nearly always fell out before or after an appointment. It’s a really stressful time for both and I found it easier to row than talk about what was really wrong because you try and be strong but really you want to cry.

On the occasions that we didn’t row was down to talking to each other first, I really did help.

I just wanted you to know I think it’s normal but try talking about any worries before you go so you can support each other instead of fight each other. Good luck on your journey xx

[lorraineb61]

You'e both angry at the situation, not at each other. It is such an emotional process, feelings are bound to spill over. You need to try and channel these emotions into the process & see the good that can come out of these appointments.

[Dunla]

IVF definitely puts a strain on your relationship. With the stress and the myriad of emotions you’re both feeling it’s understandable that you might argue a bit after appointments, it’s like a release valve. All those feelings have to come out one way or another. Fertility counselling might be something to consider. I had some on my own and some together with my husband and found it helped. Your clinic will have their own counsellor I’m sure 💖 x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi MaryAnn123. None of us want to be going through these treatment cycles, but we have to remember that there is often two of us involved. Not the sort of thing you go chatting with your mates down at the pub, so we're often left with each other. Hopefully things will settle back down, but if not do have some counselling if it is offered at your clinic. The British Infertility Counselling Association can help too. They are a charity that are specially trained in fertility problems and relationships around them. bica.net it's not free, but worth a look. Thinking of you. Diane

[Macca13]

My husband and I were the exact same when going through treatment, not angry at each other just at the process.It is an emotional rollercoaster for both of you, feelings come out one way or another. Fertility counselling may be something you both want to consider. Good luck on your journey. Xx

[MaryAnn123]

Thanks all, good to read your replies and advice. Xx