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Miscarriage - d&c?

Hi everyone.

I was 6 weeks 4 days when I started to bleed dark brown discharge. I was told to expect to miscarry so I guess it’s that.

I have another appointment with them tomorrow (a week after they told me I should expect to lose it) and I think I will ask for a d&c. I’m struggling to move on from this as I’m faced with the pains and the discharge/blood on a daily basis. as bad as it sounds I just want it physically gone so I can accept it and move on.

Is that a viable reason to choose this method? Will they let me have it?

My GP has been lovely and signed me off for a whole of 3 weeks. I brought my letters in with me because I thought he wouldn’t believe me. Work is also being understanding.

It’s a pretty crap time right now. Thankfully I have a very supportive, loving husband who’s holding me up, and a rock solid family to lean on.

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So sorry for your loss. It's your choice and they need to respect that. Take care x

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I'm so sorry to hear this. It's completely your choice whether you wish medical management or d and c. I'm glad you've got support around you and an understanding GP. Best wishes at this difficult time xx

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So sorry to read this, it’s your choice and they should support which option you feel is best for. I recently had a D&C but have also had medical management and I have to agree the D&C does help you physically move on quicker and I had a lot less bleeding. Glad your GP is being so understanding, take care of yourself xx

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It's totally acceptable to request the D&C if that's what you need to move on. This is such an incredibly hard thing to go through. It's great you've got so much support around you, but take the decisions that will help you move forward. There's nothing wrong with wanting it over with. I felt exactly the same, although I 'fortunately' (?) started miscarrying within two days of the scan that confirmed my fears. As soon as I was given the news I wanted it over with - I was so angry and so upset with myself, my body, all the medics who had dismissed my concerns etc.

You know your body and your mind better than anyone else. I'm so sorry that you're going through this, and I hope you continue getting the help and support you need.

Sending lots of love xxx

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I’m too going through this right now although I don’t need a d&c. It’s all been natural. All the best and take time to look at after your self xxxx

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I’m pretty sure you can elect to have this at any stage. I had one in May and although the whole thing is terribly sad, the staff were so compassionate and kind, and even wiped my tears when I came round from the anaesthetic, they were also really kind to my husband. I couldn’t bare the thought of passing my baby, so for me it was the best option, and physically I was ok after about a day or two. I’m so sorry for your loss, it is so cruel xxxx

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