Any positive stories/guidance after miscarriage

[Daisy-Delilah]

Hi everyone,

I hope everyone is ok and managing on their individual journeys 💕

I’m back to this site after taking some time out after a really difficult month and just looking for some positive stories/advice really on next steps.

We found out there was a problem at 6 weeks and at 8 weeks it was confirmed as missed miscarriage. I came off my IVF meds to see if my body would react naturally, after a week it didn’t, so I took the medical management route, unfortunately this didn’t work first time so I had to take it again. This time it worked partially but after a couple of weeks there was still pregnancy tissue left and so I had to go for surgical removal (which I’d wanted to avoid in the first place 🙁). I finally seem to have a negative pregnancy test (it’s horrible hoping for a negative). And so I hope we can finally move on, 7 weeks after initially finding a problem.

Im trying to think positive about next steps and moving on but I’m really struggling as I would have been 13weeks today and I found out two weeks ago my sister is 12 weeks pregnant, I also found out a friend is 11 weeks pregnant. I’m obviously happy for them but it’s just set me back each time I’ve found out.

My doctor did say that once any bleeding stops we could start trying naturally and there’s a chance I could start ovulating before my next period. This seems a positive step to me that I’m trying to remain hopeful for although it seems unlikely that this is a viable option as I have PCOS as well. Otherwise I have to wait 6-8 weeks for my period in which case if it doesn’t start then I’ll be given meds to start it and then I can start my next cycle.

I just feel like time is ticking by and it’s hard to remain positive.

hoping to hear from some of you

TIA xxxx

[Chantysal]

so sorry to hear qbyur misscarriage, this journey is so hard. What woek for us after our misscarriage was taking lovenox and prednisone (steroid) im only 9 weeks pregnant but last time i misscarried at 4 weeks. Also a frozen transfer worked for us since i suffer from endometriosis. Hang in there and dont give up ❤️❤️

[Daisy-Delilah in reply to Chantysal]

Thank you! I haven’t heard of that but I’ll definitely look into it thanks xxx

[Bexarama83]

I’m so sorry to hear of your experience. I have had 2 miscarriages but am currently 9wks with my 6th transfer 😬 it took me at least 6 months to get over my last miscarriage so please don’t rush into things. You’ve had an horrendous physical and mental experience and your body needs time to recover. Sending lots of baby dust to you and wish you luck for the future xxx

[Daisy-Delilah in reply to Bexarama83]

Thank you and congratulations on your pregnancy xxx

[Hidden]

Hi Daisy, what an awful time you have been having. I totally feel your pain as will many others on here. It’s good that you are able to talk about it all as I really feel that helps to get your head around things. Everyone is different when it comes to recovery emotionally and physically. Personally I wanted to start again as soon as I could as that’s the way I work but I understand why people want to take a break too. It’s so so hard with pregnancy announcements as you want to be happy but you also get this horrible if I’m being truly honest, jealous feeling and it’s really difficult. Hang in there, it’s a long & really tough road but I wish you all the best going forward. Big hug for the time being.

[Daisy-Delilah in reply to Hidden]

hi, thanks for taking the time to respond. Tbh I find it really hard to talk to anyone about it, I haven’t told my friends or family. That’s why this site is such a big help to me.

It’s good to have people who understand. Sounds like we are similar-as starting again as soon as I can is my way of coping with it, I need something to focus on. Xxx

[Katiee1]

Hey lovely, I couldn’t read your message and not reply. I’m so sorry you are having to go through so much hurt right now and I’m so sorry for your loss. Like many of us on here, I know that feeling all too well.

We went to start ivf in September 2021 and then fell pregnant naturally just before! That pregnancy ended in a mmc at 7 weeks and that broke us. After so long trying to conceive, I let myself dream and I thought that baby was the answer to all our prayers but sadly it wasn’t.

We didn’t even think about trying again for about 3/months months, as everything was just so triggering. Doing the deed just felt weird, periods were extremely triggering and I was just so sad. We then went to the back of the waiting list for ivf and 6 months after the mmc we got a positive again, this ended in a chemical pregnancy and the same happened 2 months later! Pregnancy tests literally mean nothing to me nowadays. I hate the bloomin things.

I’d pretty much lost all hope by this point and I just thought it was never going to happen. Fast forward to December just gone, we were just about the embark with IVF again and bam, another positive test. An anxious time of basically just waiting for the pregnancy to come to end and if I’m honest with myself I still feel a bit like that 17 weeks on! We have passed milestones that I didn’t think we would and I just still daren’t believe this is happening, but it definitely currently is (I’m not that daft :)).

I’ve never had an issue with my periods or ovulating that has ever cropped up on any tests, it was male factor infertility that was apparently our issue! However, when I fell pregnant this time, I spoke to the consultant at the clinic to say we were pregnant but that I didn’t want to cancel our appointment with her yet which she completely understood. On a whim she just mentioned that I could take progesterone if i wanted to try and maintain the pregnancy and I don’t know if it’s all down to that but it’s got me to 17 weeks so who knows!

I have been at the lowest points and I have often lost all hope but one thing this cruel process does do is make your a super resilient boss lady! God there are times when the last thing I have wanted to do is be strong and after losses, I really didn’t think I was being but I genuinely think going through so much pain only makes you a better person. You have 100% got this and although your journey isn’t the same as other people who we envy so badly, this is YOUR journey and you WILL get there because you have the strength and determination to get there. Just look after yourself and don’t force yourself to feel a certain way, go with the flow and I promise you, everything will be ok xxx

[Daisy-Delilah in reply to Katiee1]

Hi hun, thanks so much for the lovely message. It’s so lovely to get all this support from everyone, it makes me quite emotional actually!

I’m sorry to hear about all your losses. Sounds like you are doing really well this time. I hope everything goes well with your pregnancy 💕 xxx