wow where do I start from? I was diagonised with severe endo 3 years and 4 months ago which I had 6 months zoladex for and lap, I had all the side effects of the horrible injections and I didn't have any period for 3 years and 3 months. during this time I was refered to the fertility team and all my blood tests were ok and normal but few months ago I was diagonised with premature ovarian failure and they told us we need ivf to get pregnant. my partner of more than 10 years who has been by my side during the worst times of my life is a good Christian with faith stronger than anything was against the treatment saying to me that doctors don't give children God does. so he eventually followed me to the fertility clinic so when they asked him to do tests for normal routine he refused saying he is not comfortable with it cos his heart says no.from what I read about pof they said I should never have a period again but I found a supplement called dhea which is the hormones our body makes less than 2 weeks on the supplement out of the blue I had a period. few months back I made a decision that am not going for ivf cos of the drugs involved and cos I have been emotionally wrecked I can cry for 3 days non stop which makes my partner looking for alternative cure for my problems. my partner never stress me over this baby problems despite us being Africans, he told me several times that he is with me for love and not necessary for baby. so today I had a mental fit saying he is being selfish and shit so he took me on a date to explain why he reached the decision, 1st he said ivf is not 100 percent, 2nd he said his aunty had ivf twice which didn't work and she nearly went loco but after failed ivf she went on to have 4 kids in 5 years, cos his father died about 5 years ago after doctor gave him assurance to have a surgery which they believed have 100 percent success rate his mind told him not to have the surgery but the doctors convince him which he ended up in coma for 4 months and ends up dying. and lastly he said if we have the ivf and it failed he knows he will loose me to mental illness cos he knows how fragile my state of mind is now, and he continued he will not cope with me being in a psych hospital. when he explained his feelings i understood his decisions and i calmed down so to every women suffering from endo and infertility if your partner say NO pls allow him to explain his reasons before making assumptions in your mind. i believe in my heart that i will one day be a mother ivf or no ivf
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