A bit of a long rant from utter frustration and feeling entirely lost/given up hope of finding out what’s wrong….
I’ve just had my pelvic and tv ultrasound and told I am completely healthy, perfect in fact.
Which yes is lovely but I sat in my car after the appointment in tears of frustration, despair and hopelessness. How can I be perfectly healthy and have so many symptoms/pain? Is it all in my head? Am I insane?
I’ve always had what I suspected where bad periods, id need to change my tampon between lessons at school, felt completely exhausted not just during but before and after and was on pain killers that really didn’t seem to work but I was told it was all normal, here have some birth control pills and off you go.
Between 13-28 I was on numerous contraceptives, my last was the mirena coil, because pills simply weren’t enough, it did quell my pain somewhat and stopped my periods but at 28 I thought shit, what am doing to my body and had it taken out! (Back to nature and all that)
Since then things have gotten progressively worse, at first I figured it was my body/hormones stabilising after a lifetime of synthetic hormones and thought nothing of it. But 3 years ago, I decided something wasnt quite right especially after I was deemed ‘unfit to work’ as a postie because I was exhausted and constantly in pain/needing to take prolonged sick days. At first I thought I might be going into perimenopause at 31 due to all the symptoms, my doctor told me that was near impossible but sent me for pelvic ultrasound to shut me up, and of course it came back normal, perfectly healthy so I let it go and assumed what I was going through was normal and accepted my new diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome.
Well the past 3 years have been shit, the past year horrific and I’ve been scurrying around begging my new doctor (who thankfully is a lot more sympathetic) to find the cause as to why I am in so much pain and exhausted ALL THE TIME!
My periods were every 18 days, lasted a week, I would get about 3 days in the midst of my cycle of no symptoms before they all started up again. It then extended to 24 days with 5 days bleed and now it’s changed again to 28 days with 3 days bleeding and I’m passing almost golfball size clots…hence why the doctor send me for ultrasound to look for cysts, fibroids etc etc but NOTHING.
I have constant pelvic pain, almost like periods cramps but mostly just a deep constant ache. Oh and sometime pain during or after sex..which is no fun.
Chronic lower back pain
When I do have my period my cramps literally drop me to the floor, I have to sit down or crawl. Someone saw me once and said I looked like was really sick or dying and wanted to call me an ambulance..but I was just completely drained, it was day 2 of my period.
I get hives/itchy skin, headache, hot flushes, dizziness, blurry vision, nausea. Insane mood swings and emotional upheaval where sometimes I am simultaneously crying and laughing not knowing which one I’m feeling!
I have painful bowel movements, which radiates down my legs, mostly constipated before period and then diarrhoea afterwards. Get the random butt electric shot pains too. Hurts when I wee sometimes or have a full bladder, multiple utis that come and go for a day or so but nothing serious enough to warrant antibiotics!
I have pain like many describe as if one of my ovaries have burst or an organ has ruptured. Stabbing like pains that come out of nowhere, stop me in my tracks and this isn’t all during my period but all the time and randomly!
The bloating. Oh the fucking bloating after I eat anything. No allergies or intolerance or ibs ever until the past couple years after having the coil out. Now it’s bloating after every meal and cramping. I am 2 weeks post period and this seems to be the sweet spot where I get a couple days where the bloat is minimumal but I know full well it’s gonna come round soon and I’ll look full term pregnant all the time and struggle to pass gas!
Saw a naturopath, for a while who told me I have the worst case of sibo she’s ever encountered and she has no idea how to rid me off it so I’ve stopped seeing her after months of trying all sorts of bizarre supplements, diets, regimes etc with no results or change.
And I’m exhausted and look ill for 3 or so weeks, again couple days respite in the middle of my cycle and then bam back to it. So many people have told me I look unwell, have been worried I might pass out on them etc even my partner says I look like shit (in the nicest caring way possible). To which I do look like shit, I’m either pale as a ghost or red/flushed and rashy depending on where I am in my cycle! I barely recognise my face anymore!
So many times my partner has wanted to take me to the hospital over the past 6months because he can’t believe how much I am hurting, curled up in a ball crying out, but I’ve not let him, because the one time we did go I was told I was wasting precious doctors time as there was nothing wrong with me. I constantly have a hot water bottle on me.
I’d never thought much of endometriosis, knew of it, but didn’t think i would have it, however reading a lot of posts on here I keep going, ah yes, that’s me, I have that too, same here which got me thinking that maybe that is what I’m going through and seeing as things have got progressively worse the past year (and particularly couple years since coming of birth control) especially around my period as I’ve been paying more attention to it, I really thought that something would come up on the ultrasound…even though I know it doesn’t always show up. But it didn’t.
So I’m now here questioning my reality, wondering how truely insane I am, thinking maybe I just have a really crap pain threshold despite all my life thinking it was pretty high. Maybe it is all in my head? Maybe I’m really weak? Maybe I should just sit down and re evaluate wether everybody just feels like this and that life is just really hard, painful, miserable and exhausting?
I literally have lost the will to fight anymore. Maybe there is nothing physically wrong with me and I need to just pull my socks up and put some big girl pants on and get on with things instead.