Hi ladies
I'm am so desperately searching for answers, and I thought you might empathise with my situation.
I've had barely any libido since January, when I had my second laparoscopy and mirena coil fitted. This is starting to become a problem for me and my partner. I've also gained a fair amount of weight, and then I'm stressed and anxious too. I don't feel comfortable in my own skin a lot of the time. I'm having to really work to keep my head above water in all aspects of life.
But, back to practicalities. I can't envisage taking the coil out (which I'm now seriously considering to save my mental health and sex life) without then trying for children. I'm 30 and he is 35. I want to start trying asap after the coil comes out, because of the endo possibly being an issue, and also my age. I want to avoid being in my mid-thirties and stressing out over getting pregnant.... We've been living together for over 3 years, and I feel ready (as anyone can). But he hasn't changed his opinion in over a year - He keeps saying we are not ready, financially and emotionally. He thinks I would struggle. I feel hurt by that but also just confused....which then compounds my lack of desire for him.
I feel a vast distance between us getting bigger, it's actually breaking my heart. I don't know what to do or what to say to my partner anymore.
thanks for reading/listening...x