I'm new here and I'm hoping someone might be able to help.
I've been trying for a baby for about 2.5 years with no joy. We've had all the tests abd have been diagnosed with unexplained fertility.
Originally I went to the doctor a few years ago as I was worried my period pain meant something was wrong and might affect my fertility. I was told I didn't have enough symptoms for endometriosis and was sent away with some painkillers.
Going by a lot of the stories on here, I'm sure some of you would kill for my periods. This is what has convinced me in the past (along with doctors) that I'm just unlucky, and I don't have endo, as I only have the pain on day one and sometimes day two. If I take ibuprofen at the first incling of the pain, I'm absolutely fine. But if I go without it, I will wake up in a sweat, suffering from low abdominal pain, will be up and down to the toilet with loose stools and sometimes will be sick or pass out. It's usually over within a few hours and I feel drained for most of the day afterwards.
I'm 37 now and within the last year it's changed from being at the start of my period to lasting a couple of days. Tbh I don't risk it much and usually end up taking ibuprofen before it starts, so I don't know how much I could bear the pain at the moment. It;s not worth the risk if I come on on a work day. However I know you shouldn't take ibuprofen when trying for a baby. I do also get ovulation pain and something that feels similar to ovulation pain for about 3 days before my period, in the groin area.
When we first went for fertility treatment I went in and asked for a laparoscopy. I was told the waiting list would be 3-6 months for a doctor to go in and have a look, and then if he found anything I'd be back on another waiting list to go in and have it removed. But I was advised against it as nothing showed up on my transvaginal ultrasound or my MRI, and my egg quality is good (and apparently it wouldn't be if I had endo according to the doctor.)
We opted instead to go straight for IUI, and after one failed medicated cycle (trying on our own at home) and one failed IUI we were moved to a different clinic due to NHS funding.
After I was put off the laparoscopy I did some reading, and thought well, I could assume I do have endo, and if that's the case maybe I can do what I can to help myself naturally. So I looked at diet and have been having acupuncture. I'm due to start chinese herbs this week for fertility.
Fast forward 6 months and we have just been to speak to the doctor at our new clinic. She strongly advised a laparoscopy given our history, my pain, and that the IUI didn't work. The surgeon in this clinic is top notch and specialises in endometriosis, so I guess if I am ever going to have it done this might be the time. Also now I could have it on the NHS as part of our fertility treatment, and I'm told if I waited I would later have to pay.
I'm now in a bit of a pickle, having since read how it can potentially make things worse, it's really invasive, and chinese medicine is a much gentler way of dealing with endo (if I have it).
However I would like some answers as to why I might have this pain. And I've always had it, since my first period, so maybe it's just the way I'm built.
This has ended up being a longer post than I intended but if anyone can offer any similar stories or reassurance I would be really grateful.