Have other people had friendships end or change because the friend showed little interest or understanding of what you were going through?
I think it's because she's never had any health issues of her own but my oldest friend has surprised me. She chooses to ignore anything to do with my health issues and expects me to carry on as if nothing's wrong.
I'm finally having a diagnostic laparoscopy next week and she hasn't offered any support other that to say it sounds awful. Instead she is putting pressure on me to agree a date for a group holiday next month. Despite me explaining that I'm not well enough to go and don't know what the outcome of the lap will be she continues to want to arrange social events. If I can't go away next month then we'll book it for later in the year, or go to spa, or afternoon tea. It's as if she just doesn't understand or isn't interested that I can't and don't want to do anything at the moment because I'm in pain. I also have to have another unrelated surgery next month that might end up with a 12 week recovery so that makes things even more complicated
She did the same thing last year and kept pushing for me to arrange a night out for my birthday. Even when I explained that I wasn't well enough she organised something behind my back and her only response after a traumatic trip to A&E was 'ew, Gross!' She's a grown married woman!
On top of all of this we went on holiday last year and she was clearly annoyed that I couldn't do all the things she wanted because I was suffering horrible pelvic pain. I spent a lot of it on my own because I couldn't stay out drinking all night and sleep all day.
It just makes me sad. Other friends, family and colleagues have been brilliant but she's meant to be my closest friend. She's not a bad person but she just doesn't seem to get it. Sorry for the long post but it's just stressing me out when I'm already stressed about my surgery on Monday.