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Difficult times. Can't do any runs. How far back should I go to get back into it?

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At the moment my Mother is coming to the end of her life and so I am needed elsewhere. Everything is so erratic and unpredictable and I have not been out for several days. How far back in the programme should I go? Should have done W5R3 a week ago.

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So sorry to hear that Beek, it must be a difficult time indeed. It doesn't sound like you've missed too many runs if it's only a week or so but week 5 is a big week when you get to run 3 so why not repeat week 4 if you feel it would help and pick it up from there. I wouldn't think you'd need to go back any further. Take care.

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OldgirlGraduate

Hi Beek I wouldn't worry too much about completing runs, I don't mean don't go, not at all. When you have the time just pop on your shoes and try the run you were on before your world was turned up side down. Take it very easy you will be stressed just now and everything in your body will be drawn tight due to that stress, so slow and steady will help prevent injury. At the same time a run will do you good, so get out there have a run and hopefully for that short time you can regain some normality. Will be in my thoughts, hope things don't get too rough for all concerned. xx

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Littlehelper

Hi Beek. I wanted to let you that you are in my thoughts. Take care.

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caz1_caGraduate

So sorry to hear about your mom, it is such a difficult time. x

Just go out running when you can, even if it's just for ten minutes at least you are still going and it gives you a bit of time for you, because at the end of the day you still need to take care of you. (((hugs))).

Sorry to hear your news. I lost my Mum in October. My advice is forget the running for now and go and be with your Mum. If you need to go back a few weeks when you do get back to it then so be it. Take Care.

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lizfish

Thinking of you. Having played the waiting game with my mum in jan this year, I was told you need to keep normal life going a bit if you can. Keep's you sane, and you need a break to be there for her.

I think the idea of doing whatever you can is a fantastic one. Even if you warm up, jog for 5 then walk. Or do the actual programme but leave 2 or 3 days break as appropriate. And when you're able to return, wind the programme back a little if you've been struggling.

All in all, my thoughts are with you. It's a weird old time, and I hope her passing can be a peaceful and pain free one.

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doggymumGraduate

Hi beek, sorry to hear your news, but please remember thst C25K will wait as long as you need it too while you deal with other pressing issues. Spending some time with your mother is far more important right now (I wish I had been this wise at 18 when I lost my mum) and when you are ready to lace your trainers back up just go out and do a 'free' run, see how you do & how you feel. Don't put any pressure on yourself to do a certain run by a certain time, it will wait...

Take care x

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Poppy2010Graduate

So sorry to hear your news Beek, it's a difficult time, I know from losing my Dad three and a half years ago, just weeks after my grandson had been born.

I would say don't put any pressure on yourself about doing C25K runs at the moment, just if you get the time and inclination go out and do a bit; when you do return to the plan try to do the run you last did and see how that goes ( I had an enforced break due to car crash then an unrelated operation that went wrong and was able to restart virtually where I had finished)

Wishing you, your Mum and your family a peaceful time, take care x

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LMS2110Graduate

Dear Beek, so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts and prayers are with you and family at this difficult time. There's so much warm, caring and friendly advice here, can't really add more. Went through a similar time with my dad, so know the importance of keeping yourself sane, and firing on all cylinders while your mind and body will be feeling bluurrgghh.. Don't worry about the programme, it'll be there when life becomes normal again - and your body won't have lost condition, truly. It sounds like a great idea to have a little jog out from time to time if you get an opportunity: you will be aware of the mind-clearing effect of a little fresh air run. Keep yourself safe and well, take care. Linda x

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BeekGraduate

Oh My! I've always found this blog site helpful but didn't expect such a response from you all. This is such a wonderful caring community and I truly thank you for your kindness - all of you. It has taken me a while to begin to enjoy the programme and I shall take your advice and do a bit now and again! I know I will feel better for the exercise.

It's the middle of the night call outs every night that are taking their toll. But her care has been supremely FANTASTIC from all aspects of NHS. We must never take this wonderful institution for granted!

Hi Beek

My thoughts are also with you. I agree with others who have posted here, just run when you can just to give yourself a break and clear your head a bit - you will need some 'me' time. I hope everything will be peaceful in your current situation. Blessings. Brenda

Beek, I know just what it is like to lose a parent, and I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this at the moment. My thought and prayer are with you.

You can go for a run at any time; now is the time to spend with your mum. Be there for her, hold her hand and remember the happy times you had together.

God bless both you you.

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Hi beek, just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and your family. I know we don't know each other but at times like this it's good to know people really do care. As for your running, I agree with the others, don't worry if you miss any runs but if you do feel like getting out just to momentarily clear your head do so, even if only for 10 mins. Just do what your mind and body allow during this very difficult time.

Take care and I really do understand x

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roundbutsoundGraduate

Hello Beek, sorry you are having a difficult time. I too have been through similar times and it is not easy. Spend what time you can with your mum and give her your love and support. As the others have said, if the opportunity arises take a little time for yourself and have a walk, jog or run depending on how you feel. It will do you good and you will feel stronger and clearer in your mind ready to face anything the future brings. Thinking of you x

Take care Beek perhaps have a break and then use week 3 if you can? X

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