Are you thinking about Spring and visiting the Cemetery

[chloe40]

And flowers too of course?

I am so looking forward

to being able to place new plants and flowers on my parents place of rest.

Now I have something to ponder on, which plants?

Chloe<3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

going tomorrow Chloe my mums birthday tomorrow she would have been 88 my dads birthday was March and my sons anniversary in March so I`ll be down as usual.

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to kenster1]

and my dads anniversary in April.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Mine are March & April too Kenny <3

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Busy and emotional time Kenny kenster1

Will be thinking of you tomorrow <3

[Dolphin14 in reply to kenster1]

Thinking of you Kenster

❤️🐬

[Sandradsn]

We didn't make it to the cemetery at Christmas as its quite far.I do usually keep fresh flowers next to a photo on the fireplace. Planning a trip soon and taking daffodils .

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

Hi Sandradsn

It's difficult when you have to travel, I have the same problem.

I put flowers next to photos too, it's really comforting isn't it?

Chloe

[Sandradsn in reply to chloe40]

I also have a little rose bush in our garden that I've planted in remembrance.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

Brilliant @Sandrason,

I always recommend planting a shrub or a plant that a loved one admired, it lovely to nurture and watch it grow, so satisfying <3

Chloe

[chloe40 Administrator]

That's lovely Hidden

I imagine you can walk there whenever you wish and I would certainly be

going there whenever I had worries, just to share them, it would comfort me.

Chloe <3

[chloe40 Administrator]

It's good you have the choice, keep well Luna <3

Chloe

[Caza]

we’ve moved away away from the crematorium so I don’t visit as often as I did. It’s kept beautifully always different plants & flowers so I know they’re well looked after.

My daughters ashes are still with me. Like many of you I keep photos candles & put flowers next to them on their special days.

Should add, the ashes are not on show that would be too weird & freak out visitors!!

[chloe40 Administrator]

It's difficult because we don't envisage moving at such times do we Caza but having your daughters ashes with you is a comfort, I would do the same.

Chloe <3

[Caza]

No, I never thought I’d move out of London

They do bring me comfort which maybe to some that would be strange. I’ve never been ready to let them go. They’ll be mixed with mine & scattered in the sea when the time comes x

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

Absolutely lovely <3

[GoGo_JoJo]

Not at all 🤔 I don't have anywhere to visit which immediately makes me feel glad I don't have something else to add to the to do list, or feel guilty if I can't do it. 🙈🤣 I suppose it might be nice to have a visitation spot but I tend to talk to whomever in missing wherever I am. My Dad didn't believe that time at a graveside was well spent, he often described funerals as being for the living only. Whenever I see tulips or old fashioned windmills I think of and say hello to my dear friend.

As so often it's down to what works for the individual. Somewhere to reflect, in whatever way helps, is definitely the best. I do most of my reflecting running up on the hills. 🌅

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Hi GoGo_JoJo Jo

How are you?

I understand, and what works for one doesn't another, reflecting is a personal thing wherever that may be<3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

anytime just glad to point out about the forum to users who have suffered loss. shame it`s still a small forum as so many on these forums no doubt have suffered loss but I guess we all deal with it differently again so sorry for your losses god bless them both.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Yes indeed, thank you Kenny kenster1

We are a small Community compared to many but we have great members, kind and considerate and I am very grateful for that <3

Chloe