Personally it helps me to read how others are coping no matter how short or long their posts, but I'd like to know how you feel. <3
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Do reading about the circumstances of others loss help in any way or would you rather not know?
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I find it helpful as its nice to know I'm not the only one feeling like that!
Thanks Hidden It's good to have you around and thanks for supporting our members too! <3
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I obviously don`t like reading of someone`s loss and suffering but reading posts pure from the heart are important because people like to tell the story in the hope others can relate to it and in turn supported.another platform I use kept deleting my posts about my losses in case it triggered anyone so it was like you had deprived of telling your story.
I think it's both comforting to know that we're not alone and also an important way to stop any "wallowing". I tried more than once to get it through to my mother when she was either wallowing or playing the martyr that 150,000 people die every day. Just think of how many spouses, parents, siblings, friends are affected...
We never know what is occurring in others lives if we don't listen, or ask.
It's also useful for complex grief to understand that whatever we are feeling has been felt by others too, we're not weird, abnormal or not grieving "right".
Thank you GoGo_JoJo
I particularly like 'It's also useful for complex grief to understand that whatever we are feeling has been felt by others too, we're not weird, abnormal or not grieving "right".
Thanks Jo
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I am sorry, but I feel really uncomfortable with the use of the word, 'wallowing.' I know the definition of the word, but I am uncertain in what sense it is meant here.
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I'm using it in the sense that, certainly in my mother's case, she set out to almost enjoy her grief and to use it against others. Her annoyance at the fact that wearing black was no longer a signal of grief was great. Her grief, whilst certainly real, could also be used as yet another tool to manipulate.
Sadly my mother was deeply narcissistic so there were other layers to her grief that were not entirely related to her loss.
Only I know how I feel. No one else can know how I feel. I suffer from complex grief and it is interesting to know how others feel but it doesn't alleviate my grief. Judging others is not helpful.
Likewise, only I know what I've been through and had to deal with. Thanks for judging me 👍🏻
That's my opinion. You are too quick to judge.
No one is judging kitty7 the post was a personal account only as you would see if you re-read it.
Here at Bereavement Care & Share we care and support each other, we do not judge others but talk about our own circumstances.
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That's the thing isn't it only you know how you feel and things that upset one person don't bother another.
Yes I do get ‘comfort’ from reading about others. Of course I wouldn’t wish grief on them but yes reading about other people’s experiences makes me feel not so alone or abnormal. If that makes sense
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I am now closing this thread now as I don't want this forum to become one where members bicker, it is not helpful to anyone, least of all those suffering grief <3
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