Nightime

[CbR23]

I have lost both parents in a very short time and my mother was my bestie my ride or die my encourager my best friend and I gave my life to take care of her and I did it willingly. Night time reminds me of how alone I am and how I have no husband no children what can I do does anyone have any advice how they get through it I'm just white knuckling it right now

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello @CbR23

It is always a dreadful shock when we lose a loved one, even when we know the inevitable and I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing replaces a parent, especially a Mum for most of us, and you have invested so much love that your devastation is understandable. To lose both parents in a short period is awful.

Distraction is the only way I have found that worked during that time, find something, anything that stops you thinking about it, even for a short period and gradually lengthen the time spent thinking.

Try taking up something you enjoy, perhaps volunteering, painting, embroidery etc, something that requires your full attention.

You didn't say how long ago this was, but your feelings are valid <3

We're always here for you.

Chloe

[littlestarsmum]

I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, friend. My heart goes out to you. Losing special people in our lives is very hard, and the impact of such a loss is deep. The sorrow can affect us in many ways. It’s important to let yourself go through the process and give yourself as much time as you need. I lost my dad six years ago, and it still hurts. I’d suggest that you speak to a grief counselor. You may also check out the book: When You Lose Someone You Love by Richard Exley. I know it’s not easy but stay strong. Sending hugs & prayers your way.

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ChR23,I am so very sorry for your losses. I lost my mom in August 2021. I find the nights the worst part too. Starting last summer, I worked on things to think of her by. During the days, I look for signs of her presence and thank her for those and for watching over me. I have my letter to her that I'm forever working on as well. I talk to her all the time and it helps. It doesn't mean the pain of her loss diminishes, but it does allow it to become more bearable.