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How are you holding up this week?

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What's your week been like?

Mine has been a little better so far and I'm trying to get myself involved with past times to get me through the winter, yes, I know that seems a long way away, but good to be prepared and have something to look forward to.

How about you?

Chloe <3

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Greyone

This week i got out my 'wiping the fridge' cloth because its getting colder and condensation is settling on my old fridge so winter is close. I also recall today that i had a sense of satisfaction because of the lockdown. I didn't want to go out and others could not. I've also felt guilty because of the failures in my life. Yes , i have had a sad period this afternoon. However my undeniable joy has been 30 minutes in the garden weeding and i certainly feel better with a belly full of white fish and veg.

I must also confess that i have been getting out of the habit of sleeping and eating well.

My friend Marge put my views into perspective when she told me she is classed as extremely vulnerable and so dare not venture out. Knowing that i can safely go out for walks, shopping , meals and drinks reminds me how lucky i am.

During the evening news after hearing of the latest disaster on the other side of the world, my mum would always say "We don't know how lucky we are". That sums up my thoughts this evening.

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chloe40Administrator in reply toGreyone

Hi Greyone

I must agree, I have thought the same thing myself about the season drawing close, although we are mid summer, the dark days and evenings certainly feel like it.

Glad you enjoyed your weeding and meal, sometimes it's the little things that keep us satisfied.

Yes indeed, we are lucky and we must try and believe that too<3

Enjoy your evening

Chloe

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been terrible since Thursday.

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Caza in reply tokenster1

I’m with you, awful, full of sadness & sleepless nights, nightmares when I do etc etc.... Not sure it has anything to do with the weather just the way it is.

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chloe40Administrator in reply toCaza

Hi Caza,

Really sorry to read this, it's so very tiring during these phases. You could be right about the weather playing a part too, I've had several sleepless nights and very odd dreams myself.

Hope it changes for you very soon<3

Chloe

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chloe40Administrator in reply tokenster1

Oh no Kenny, do you want to share?

Sending love and support <3

Chloe

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maemae86

Winter will soon be here! Can’t believe how fast this year has gone already.

Glad your week is a little better, long may it continue for you.

This week is better than last week for me. Practicing gratitude and positivity every day and trying to be more active which is definitely helping x

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chloe40Administrator in reply tomaemae86

I'm pleased to read this maemae86

I hope it continues and good practises!

Chloe<3

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Sandradsn

I feel so overwhelmed when I wake up in the morning. It's a sadness that washes over me.I miss my mum so much .

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chloe40Administrator in reply toSandradsn

I'm so sorry Sandradsn

That's just such an awful way to start the day.

Try making a memory box and adding lots of little things as reminders of your Mum.

Maybe you could try dedicating a 15/20 minute period in the early evening to reflect on your Mum, think about the good terms you both shared and the things she liked to do. By doing this, your mind should be able to cope a little better and not be overwhelmed. Go through the things in her memory box during the periods of reflection.

Hope this helps

Chloe <3

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DeeMDee

I've had a difficult week. I've been very emotional. I think it's because it's my birthday soon and it will be the first one without my Dad. He passed away at the beginning of the year. I find the emotional pain mentally and physically draining. I've had better weeks but this one hasn't been great.

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Sandradsn in reply toDeeMDee

Same for me DeeMDee,my birthday next week and my mum died in January. I have good memories of last summer but it makes me tearful thinking about them.

This sadness wells up from inside me,cant stop it.

I have a memory box now which I've been adding to.

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DeeMDee in reply toSandradsn

I have fond memories of my Dad, and like you they upset me. I don't know if a memory box would be a good idea for him/ for me to remember him. Any suggestions would be gratefully received. Do you struggle daily the loss of your Mum Sandradsn?

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Sandradsn in reply toDeeMDee

At the moment I'm really struggling daily. This crazy lockdown hasn't helped,what a year it's been.I need to keep busy or go out but don't want to!.

So much has changed .I don't know what can help with this sadness,apart from talking about mum x

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DeeMDee in reply toSandradsn

I know how you feel. I am back at work (in the office) 3 days a week. It's a slight distraction but I live on my own so when I come home I don't have anyone to talk to. My siblings all seem to have moved on but I can't.

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Sandradsn in reply toDeeMDee

I think we just need to go through this grief,I still can't believe she's gone.

A friend recently asked me "Have you got over your mum dying yet?"!!! I just said yes I'm fine.

How insensitive, maybe we can be a help to others who are grieving at some point.x

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