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Skyp
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Lost sister 6 months ago. And received a backlash from brother in law accusing me im a selfish bitch and never cared. I put up with awful shouting and swearing for over a hour obviously I cannot put no here the vile language he used it came out fo nowhere it was like he was possessed! Has anyone else been the victim of this sort of behaviour

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Hi Skyp That’s really terrible, you’ve been nothing but supportive and put your own grief to one side to help him.

Maybe this will be the push that makes you realise enough is enough!

I’m so sorry you’ve had to listen to that behaviour, he is grieving himself and lashing out at the nearest person but that’s no mistake x

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Caza

This is awful so hurtful. Even though he himself is racked with pain he shouldn’t of taken it out on you. Had he been drinking? Is this behaviour uncommon? If an apology is offered I think I would accept it & move on & move back. If no apology is offered I’d stand back but speak to the children to explain why, without criticising their dad. & yes I have been on the end of a very vile verbal attack, completely unjustified. I got an apology via the husband & his wife was going to apologise herself but she didn’t. We haven’t spoken since. But yours is different.

Must say the verbal attack left me in pieces even though it wasn’t true & she was just so angry (not with me but with my son)it left me in bits & im determined to never ever let someone talk to me like that again 😤

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Skyp in reply to Caza

Hi caza. Sorry to hear you went through it to. Yes it's so hurtful. He had had a good few pints but that is no excuse as far as I'm concerned I cannot believe the vile language he used. He went from one thing to another. Gosh he was like a person obsessed. No apology has been made. I am so hurt and angry that at the moment I don't want to hear. Speak or see him. I'm disgusted with him. I will be telling my niece when I next see her. Xx

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Caza in reply to Skyp

I’m so sorry that you had to go through this.life is so difficult isn’t it without all this angst. Take time out & look after yourself xx

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hi sorry to hear of your beloved sisters passing god bless her.I had major fall outs with my dad after my mum died even leading me to the police cells wasn`t the place for a grieving son to be but that`s were our fall outs led me.we lashed out at each other it didn`t help I lived at home either.we mended our relationship and enjoyed 8 great years as father and son and hopefully in time you can mend the relationship with your brother in law.

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Caza

How are you getting on?

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Skyp in reply to Caza

Hi cazaWell I'm still waiting for a apology which I can't see happening. How are you doing x

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Caza in reply to Skyp

That’s so disappointing. I really hoped that he’d of cooled down or sobered up or come to his senses. Awful for you x

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Skyp in reply to Caza

Yep can't believe the awful vile language he used x

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Caza in reply to Skyp

Yes I probably can imagine. Do you think he’s just too embarrassed to speak to you & apologise. Have you a partner that would go & talk to him? It took me ages & ages to move on from how I was treated that one time. Just kept reliving it. Horrible horrible feeling

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Skyp in reply to Caza

Hi casa.no I don't have a partner now.yes I think he's to ashamed and embarrassed.if he can't handle his drink then he shouldn't have any especially as he on antidepressants. I'm the same keep reliving it word for word.at the moment I'm drinking tea and enjoying the sunshine 🌞

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