Lost my lovely dad: Hello everyone I... - Bereavement Care ...

Bereavement Care & Share

887 members1,501 posts

Lost my lovely dad

L1974 profile image
9 Replies

Hello everyone I lost my dad yesterday, he was 75. It was quite sudden he had a minor stroke on Friday but also his heart seemed to give up. We spoke over the weekend and he was determined to get well but Monday went downhill. I am so devastated I never got to see him. My mother died 27 years ago so now no parents at 47. Just looking for some comfort x

Written by
L1974 profile image
L1974
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
9 Replies
chloe40 profile image
chloe40Administrator

Hi L1974

Welcome to our Community.

So sorry for the loss of your dear Dad.

It’s always a shock even when we’re expecting it but I totally understand how upset you’re feeling not having seen him at the end.

I will get back to you later today.

Sending love

Chloe 💗

chloe40 profile image
chloe40Administrator

Hello again L1974

Your emotions are in turmoil right now and the shock is difficult for you to come to terms with.

I know you wanted to see your Dad at the end and I'm so sorry you didn't but I hope you'll have the opportunity to visit before the funeral and say your goodbyes, this is really important for you.

The coming weeks and months are going to be a roller coaster of emotions, so please take good care of yourself.

I hope you can stay in touch with us when you feel the time is right and we'll be here for you, offering support.

Chloe x

kenster1 profile image
kenster1Volunteer

hi welcome aboard sorry to hear about your dearest dad and your mum god bless them both.hopefully our little community can be of good added support to you.in the same boat as you sadly lost my mum in 09 and my dad in 2018 god bless and take care.

L1974 profile image
L1974

Thanks for your replies, feels weird at the moment emotions up and down, dad doesn’t have life insurance, he told us he did but we can’t find paperwork. The funeral bill will be with me as my sister has no money. It’s such a mess, he is in a council property and we need to clear it within a week, he was a hoarder so a lot to get through. Am so frightened to go back into his flat without him in it, only his belongings.

kenster1 profile image
kenster1Volunteer in reply toL1974

hi can a charity not come and take all the furniture you take some personal items maybe.the social security can help with costs but it would have to be your sister applying.hopefully you can find out his insurance details maybe contact some local ones to see.

GoGo_JoJo profile image
GoGo_JoJo

Hi there, I'm so sorry for your loss. Yes, I completely understand. It's a strange feeling, almost one of abandonment. I lost my Dad in 2014 and my mother in 2018. I was 43 at the time. I didn't get to see either before it happened although my relationship with my mother was far from good, I was devastated to lose my Dad, he was only 56 and my mother 62. Not at all what I expected. I hope you have a good support network, friends or family.

I had to clear and sell my mother's property in a week. It's really tough. You need someone to help you.

If you can, just try to focus on the task and when the feelings come just let them roll through until afterwards 💖 good luck 🤞🏻

L1974 profile image
L1974 in reply toGoGo_JoJo

Feel angry today, sadly with Dad for not making better provision. Absolutely dreading going to his flat tomorrow to start sorting it, my husband thinks it should be cleared straight away so we can get house clearance in before we start being charged full rent, my sister is saying she doesn’t want it cleared until after his funeral. I want the funeral to be the final step before we can grieve and heal (hopefully).

GoGo_JoJo profile image
GoGo_JoJo in reply toL1974

I'm on your side. Leaving it longer will only make it harder. Anger is very normal and natural I'm sorry to say.

The sooner its done, the sooner that part is over 💖

Sandradsn profile image
Sandradsn

I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad.I hope you manage to get started on the flat tomorrow. It will be difficult and emotional I'm sure.

We will be thinking of you,let us know how it goes.

Not what you're looking for?

You may also like...

Lost me dad.

What a week lost my dad, I’m so angry why did it happen to him he was one of the good guys not a...

Lost my Dad Suddenly to Heart Attack

Hi, I lost my Dad very suddenly in December. He was 75. He had a previous heart attack and AF so...
lkamin profile image

My dad is gone

I’ve done a few searches online to see if there is anyone who’s had the same. My dad died...

Grieving for my Dad

Hi all I’m new to this group . So it will be 5 years in July that I lost my mum and miss her every...
Jodz profile image

My Dad, my world

I’ve been through any and all emotions since my Dad died in April of covid-19 and other...
maemae86 profile image

Moderation team

chloe40 profile image
chloe40Administrator

Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.

Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.