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I’d like to gauge how long our membership have been grieving, now I realise everyone is different, and that’s okay. We all grieve in different ways, so I’d really appreciate you’re help here.

Sending love

Chloe

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Caza

If you mean the intense all consuming pain. I would say for me it was about 7yrs but I think I will grieve for my daughter forever.

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Thank you Caza I can well understand that too xx

3 years tomorrow my Husband died, 2 Months before that my Sister died. A month after my Husband my beloved dog died.. Boxing Day 2019 my Brother died and then April 2020 my dear Mom died. I think the grieving hasn't left me but it gets easier as time goes on but is always in the background . It is like putting it away in a box and getting it out when you are feeling the need to let your feelings wash over you and then putting it away again for another day. Sort of like letting your loved ones know you never forget them.

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Hello Josephine13halffull Welcome!

My goodness, you have suffered a number of losses, that's a lot to cope with. I do like the way you have described the your 'box' and I think this is a very good way to express grief, thank you!

<3

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Sandradsn

It's been 18 months now.

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Thank you Sandradsn

I appreciate this <3

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GoGo_JoJo

That's such a tough question. As we've discussed before we can grieve not just over loved ones lost, but opportunities, jobs, friends fallen away etc.

I think I've been grieving in one form or another since the age of 9 when I was separated from my brother, possibly even earlier as I was obsessed with being in a "real family" which although briefly achieved was also broken when my brother was pushed out. 💔

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waylay

1.25 years

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Ah, bless you x

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