Did/do you feel angry with your loved one for leaving you?

[chloe40]

Many of us experience anger whilst grieving, it's a natural reaction but how we deal with it is different for everyone. <3

Chloe<3

[Skye001]

Its been over 3 years since our family was ripped apart, recently I have been feeling so angry that I have been left with all the the jobs that my husband would have taken in his stride but for me its a nightmare. I find myself being annoyed he's not here to help.. then I feel guilty because I should be aiming my anger at the the person who is responsible for putting us in this position.

[Theloudone in reply to Skye001]

((Hugs))

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Skye001]

HI Skye001

Yes, I can empathise, this happens to so many of us, it's a strange emotion for grief because as you say you then end up feeling guilty! <3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

no but anger did surface in all my major losses for different reasons.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

Hi Kenny,

Yes, you've had many reasons to feel angry {{{hugs}}} and I hope that will soon slow down. Take care .

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to chloe40]

I wish supposed to visit my aunt today but it was cancelled for the 3rd time due to rain.phoned up the care home to arrange another visit and the manager asked if their was issues within the family so my sister phoned up later and the manager said my troublesome aunt and her son are continuing to make appointments weeks in advance preventing me my sister or niece visiting my aunt.you are only nominated two visitors so my troublesome aunt and son keep nominating each other shutting us out yet my cousin never visited her the last 9 months my aunt lived at my dads.this is the aunt who stole the last moments memories of my dads and caused me and my sister and even her own ill sister problem after problem.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to kenster1]

I'm so sorry kenster1 Kenny,

It never seems to stop for you recently. I know you how time and care you have given your Aunt and it seems so wrong to put you through this now, it must be very frustrating for you and painful too <3

[kenster1 Volunteer in reply to chloe40]

yeah the guy it seems unfair that I was her main carer but can`t even get a visit but he squeezed me next week in the hope something can be arranged.

[Josephine13halffull]

I didn't feel angry as such just disappointed that it happened in the first place.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Josephine13halffull]

Of course, disappointment is not a word I have associated with loss but your absolutely right, thank you !

[Josephine13halffull]

I still don't feel angry just sad for him and what he suffered. Since then 2018, I have lost my brother and my dear Mother. Still haven't felt angry.

[socratesanne]

Yes, especially at this time in our world's history. I feel rage I have to go through this alone. It is not easy and grieves me daily when if I had my loved ones It might seem doable but daily I do not think I will make it through. Literally stay up late just to wear myself out, keeping busy in case it is the last day but it is so hard on the body. Chloe, I appreciate your brief questions to help us think and move forward to healing.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello socratesanne

Oh how I understand your sentiments! It really has been very hard on so many of us, but as you say we must keep busy, try to fill our hours with something (not so easy at times) , it's the only way forward and through this, but we will get through, you and I and everyone here <3

Thank you! I'm so pleased you have realised why I post short questions and statements, it is exactly as you say and you've made my day for saying that Anne, thank you so much<3